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How to cope with very demanding toddler?

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susiemumof · 16/07/2012 18:22

3rd dc so I'm not new to this.

She is a nightmare! The worlds worst behaved child!! (only half joking on this)

Am more venting than anything else I suppose! She is 23 months and been like this since about 14 months.

I don't parent-I try to control. From the minute she wakes up till the minute she goes to bed my life is a constant stream off lifting her down from things and stopping her hurting people. She constantly strips herself naked and screams bloody murder if not getting her own way.

Obviously everything that can be moved from her reach has been but she uses drawer handles to climb onto kitchen units/bedroom furniture/side boards and uses the shelves on wall units & book cases as ladders.

She constantly throws things at me/her siblings/visitors, we obviously move everything but she will take her shoes off or uses visitors possessions as missiles to hit them with (think keys etc)

I try and get out with her as much as possible but with the weather just now it's not easy, we need to try and stick to quiet places as she bites any children she can get her hands on and it makes for a miserable time constantly trying to second guess her.

We don't let her get away with any off this behaviour, we are constantly watching her and removing her from situations but no amount of time out or leaving a situation make any difference.

She can climb out her cot/buggy/high chair and car seat so we have had to make our own restraints to use alongside what's already there to try and keep her safe.

We do things like long walks splashing in puddles/swimming/quieter play parks/long beaches etc to get her fresh air and tire her out but it gets so limited.

Have spoke to the health visitor but she thinks it is just a stage she will grow out off!

Anyone else have similar problems?

I do have some friends with dc around her age that have tried to make a effort with days out with us but it is so stressful and usually ends up with there dc being hurt.

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thisisyesterday · 16/07/2012 18:26

my 3rd is EXACTLY the same!

i know we are not supposed to say our kids are bad or naughty these days, but my GOD, this child is BAD BAD BAD! he really is naughty, and he knows it too!

I just looked round as I typed that and he has climbed onto the back of a swivelling chair and is trying to pull a picture frame off the wall- when he noticed me he said "I are being careful" Hmm

don't have any solutions I'm afraid. My older 2 are really pretty well behaved so I don't think that his behaviour is entirely my fault. Nothing we do seems to change it so it's all about prevention as much as possible.

bloody hard work though

thisisyesterday · 16/07/2012 18:29

meant to say, mine is 3 and shows no sign of growing out of it!

he does show quite a lot of signs of ASD though, which my eldest also has, so we're keeping an eye on that. doesn't explain all the terrible behaviour though and incidentally DS1 was a model toddler

susiemumof · 16/07/2012 18:29

Glad it's not just me.

Usually I can scape by but today has been a very bad day!

She is in the bath just now which is the only time I get 5 mins, though she keeps trying to soak me Hmm

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BabydollsMum · 16/07/2012 18:39

No advice just empathy - I have a climber/escape artist too (although she is generally a good girl apart from that) but bloody hell, I'm knackered.

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