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Do you punish at home if somethings happened as school?

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charliecat · 03/03/2006 21:18

My dd, who is 8, year 3 is the perfect pupil at school....er...was should I say.
Today her friends mum told me that her dd and my dd had been punished for kicking a boyShock
I picked up dd from round the corner and she didnt say a word.
Actually she did. She said she was bored and hungry.
I grilled her...nothing...eventually I said I knew what had happened and could she please tell me in her words, she didnt want to but did because I was going to give her sister her lolly if she didnt.
The school had made the two girls sit doing nothing whilst the rest of the class enjoyed golden time...this is where the afternoon is spend doing something fun/crafty projects.
She had chewed a hole in her jumper at some point today...I said You MUST tell me if something like this happens.
I didnt punish her though. Would you have done?

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Twiglett · 03/03/2006 21:19

no, I think you did the right thing

starlover · 03/03/2006 21:19

i would express my displeasure but not punish... if she has been punished at school that's enough imo

Miaou · 03/03/2006 21:24

We have had this sort of situation before (and will again I'm sure) with dd2. I think it's counterproductive to punish at home as well - otherwise she has no incentive to behave ever if all good things are removed! Dd2 has in the past behaved badly at school and we have discussed it with her and made our displeasure known. Conversely, her behaviour at school atm is fantastic, whereas at home it has nosedived recently. We have still praised her for her behaviour in school. We try and keep the two separate.

charliecat · 03/03/2006 21:25

Big sigh of relief. I wanted her to TELL me about it in the end. And thought she would never fess up if I took something away or gave her a huge telling off.
I did say she shoudnt ever kick anyone, and that im sure she knows that.

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WigWamBam · 03/03/2006 21:27

I wouldn't punish if she had already been punished by the school. I would, though, make sure that she knew how disappointed I was and would give her a bit of a talking-to about respecting other people.

egocentriczebra · 04/03/2006 14:20

not if school has done as well.
sometimes DH tries to and I have to pull him aside & lecture him not to.

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