Naughty step/corner

[Babymay]

From what age did you use the naughty step/ corner with your DC? My DD is 2.2 and I feel like I need to introduce the naughty step/ corner, but not surf if she would understand the concept.
Would like to know when you all started to use it?

TBH I think it depends very much on the DC, they can vary so much in early years

I started with mine very young at about 18 months, but she was already an argumentative cheeky moo running up the stairs & speaking in full sentences by then & had very good understanding of the concept -

She was so good that by 2 1/2, she had taken complete control of it & would deliberately do something she knew she shouldn't & then go a put herself on the naughty step - so we had to keep moving the naughty step, chair, corner to stay one step ahead of her & then gave it - it doesn't work for all DCs & it certainly didn't work for her, even at such a young age - some kids will see it as a game to be you at, as mine did

if YOU think she's ready & will understand, that is the time to try it, you know your DC best after all - & DO stick at it & give it a good shot - lots do respond to it well - but its always worth being prepared for it not working & looking at other ways :)

should have read game to BEAT you at

We didn't.

We use 1 2 3 magic instead.

I didnt really like the idea of "naughty" anything and I thought 1 2 3 magic was a good alternative.

It's really easy to understand so at just turned 2 I think maybe you should have a look into it. Obviously you don't have to but I think having options is a good thing. It is really easy for parents to follow too.

I have been doing this with my 3 year old but even my not quite 2 year old understands how it works now.

You can get the book from amazon or to your kindle if you have one.

"the naughty" step is just a term, mostly for us adults - not one you need to use in front of DCs if you don't feel comfy with it - the concept can still work for a lot of DCs, just call it time out or something else instead - as we did

& there's nothing wrong with the word "naughty" used in the correct context of deliberately bad behaviour in older DCs

I think we had the naughty unaaceptable behaviour in a civilised society step from about 3 ish? I think it very much depends on the child.

Thank you for your posts. I will def. look into 123 too.

Another vote for 1,2,3 we started this at around 2 and were quite strict to start with and ds got quite a lot of time outs in first couple of weeks (generally for beating up his baby sister). He grasped the concept very quickly after that and we now use counting a lot and generally don't have to go further than "1" before he does what we are asking. And if he looks like he's about to do something naught (like beating up his baby sister) a quick "would you like me to count?) usually stops him in his tracks. I was sceptical but am a big big fan.

rockinhippy (fab name btw) I do agree with what you're saying, I just meant that I personally didn't feel comfortable with doing the naughty step.

I just wanted to give op my experience of a different technique I suppose. We can never have too many back ups when it comes to children eh.

thats fine xMin :)

I'm curious as the what the 123 technique actually is - you've got me wondering if its actually something we did do with DD without having a name/instruction for it IYSWIM & found it worked better most of the time

The 'calming down mat' became useful for us from around that age.

Basically, if you've asked a child to stop doing something (for example) and they are ignoring you, you count to three (at an appropriate pace which might vary by age). If you get to three and they haven't stopped you essentially give them a 'time out', which is actually just taking them away from the situation to diffuse tension for you and for them. In our case, we took DS to his room for time outs because at the start it was generally about getting him to stop bothering his little sister and we wanted him to take it very seriously (so he didn't hurt her). But you don't need to necessarily do it like this. The books is worth a read.

Damn seems i might have missed a trick hthere, I could have written a book - In which case I too would recommend the 123 method too - seems without ever having read a book on it, we did pretty much that anyway - in fact it can still work even ow at 9 - I've never ever got to 3 though, she usually gives in by 2 & she is a stubborn mare - though I thinks she learnt early on that I am twice as stubborn, so it works well :)