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Am I the only one whose child has vocal tics?

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MayaAngelCool · 10/07/2012 21:05

At times it drives me absolutely nuts. He's been doing it for a couple of years now - he'll invent some noise or other which he'll make in his mouth, and then gradually, over weeks, it will build and build up until he's doing it all the time, for hours on end.

He eventually stops, then a few weeks later he'll come up with a new one and the whole rigmarole starts again.

At first we just ignored it, which made no difference, as it just got worse and worse, and even his very patient teacher complained to him about it. When he does it a lot it becomes bloody infuriating!

Is this a normal habit which some children go through? He is an otherwise brilliant kid, with normal good/ bad behaviour, very close to us, etc. he is a sensitive kid, and though I would tend to assume that this type of behaviour is anxiety-related, I honestly cannot find anything which could have triggered or perpetuated it.

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WhyTheBigPaws · 10/07/2012 21:09

My DD has always done this and it drives me bonkers! At the moment it's throat clearing and at one time it was a sort of grunted 'hmm'. Like you I try to ignore it but it's bloody difficult! Don't think she's especially anxious about anything, more that she's just that sort of kid - I remember being a very fiddly sort of child myself, always picking at my cuticles and clenching my hands which was probably almost as annoying although at least a bit quieter!

MayaAngelCool · 10/07/2012 21:15

Yes! If only he'd find a quiet habit I'd be able to ignore the damn tics! I practically had to bite my tongue this evening to stop me telling him to STFU!!! Blush

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MayaAngelCool · 10/07/2012 22:08

bumping...

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LittleBoxes · 10/07/2012 22:16

Throat clearing here too with dd, who has just turned six. Ignoring is the only way I can deal with it. Same situation as the OP: it'll last a few weeks then will stop until she thinks of a new one in a few weeks' time. With dd I think it's linked to general tiredness/grumpiness - we're reaching the end of term, she's been sleeping badly recently and I'm banking on it clearing up as soon as the holidays arrive and she gets a bit of a rest.

notsoladyjess · 11/07/2012 10:38

my 8yo ds has had this kind of thing for the last few years. it changes frequently and hasn't been noisy things. we have had teeth grinding, licking of lips, nervous coughs, flicking hair out of eyes, squinting eyes and the latest one is pulling his face down by opening his mouth. he looks moronic (can i actually say that??). in every way he is a lovely boy, bright and secure. we worry about it as i would hate for anyone to take the piss out of him. one boy did the other day so i will keep an eye on whether it bothers him. i've been told the besat thing is to ignore it and it goes away. x

RevoltingChildren · 11/07/2012 10:47

If you find a solution then please do tell me because I am 38 years old and have had one since I was about 10.

I have to try really, really hard to control it sometimes and occasionally I catch dd doing it and I really don't want her to develop one.

EmilieFloge · 11/07/2012 10:55

I think I used to do things like this when I was little...about 8 or 9yo.

It coincided with a very very stressful year at school with a bully of a teacher who was eventually fired (I am told) for being so awful to the children.

My parents knew about her but never stood up for me - I had to just suffer it and as a result became extremely anxious and it kind of spiralled from there into school refusal and I am still a very anxious person. the habits I had at the time faded, they became internalised instead - I still find myself repeating words and sounds inside my head in an OCD kind of way but no one would know I was doing it. I am so used to it I don't often notice.

There is probably a trigger somewhere for your child, it is worth asking them if anything is worrying them, just in case, but it could just be one of those things - I don't know enough about it to say.

I hope you manage to find a way through until it stops.

IslaValargeone · 11/07/2012 10:57

My dc has one that comes and goes, it seems to be stress related though.

BertieBotts · 11/07/2012 10:58

DS has one too. It's happening a lot at the moment which I assume is related to DP moving out (he's moved away with work but we're still together/in contact a lot).

I still get them - physical mainly rather than verbal, though.

EmilieFloge · 11/07/2012 11:04

Actually ds2's disfluency (stutter) comes and goes when he is worried, too.

I think a lot of these things do have that pattern.

BehindLockNumberNine · 11/07/2012 19:41

Dd has had nervous motor tics since she was two and a half. At age three and a half she developed a compulsive hairpulling habit which took until age six to break. In the meantime she would have intense periods of motor ticcing and some vocal ticcing.

She is an anxious child (outwardly over confident and bouncy but those who know her well know that this is a front for her anxiety). She compulsively bites her nails and fingers until they bleed. She also displays OCD symptoms, went through a phase of not being able to walk unless she tapped each foot x number of times on the pavement and is a compulsive list maker - to the point it is not funny but rather worrying - her bedroom is over run with torn up bits of paper containing endless lists of horse names, dog names, etc.

She also struggles socially. We are having friendship issues at school again at the moment. She just does not appear to 'fit in'.

She is nine.

IslaValargeone · 11/07/2012 20:32

Oh, behind, that sounds so sad.
My dc is a bit of a social struggler too, and complains that people don't get her.
Adults seem to but she struggles a bit with kids her own age. She too is a list maker.

PorkyandBess · 11/07/2012 20:45

My 10yo ds was terribly tick prone from the age of about 6 to 8. They always flared up at the beginning of a school year.

He went through various - blinking, stammering, weird noises, throat clearing.

I was demented and worried by them all. I tried very hard to ignore, but sometimes would snap.

They have passed, I am so relieved to say! He doesn't do anything now.

Himalaya · 11/07/2012 21:24

DS (9) has multiple motor tics (hoping, head flicking, nose twitching) and motor tics (grunting, snorting slurping, throat clearing) - he doesn't do them all at once but usually has 3-4 on the go at any one time.

He just got a diagnosis of Tourette's Syndrome from the paediatrician on that basis (I think the DX criteria is multiple vocal and motor tics for more than a year).

Not sure if having a diagnosis will make a difference. The paed said 1/3 of kids with TS get worse, 1/3 grow out of it and 1/3 stay the same. So basically no clue Grin

MayaAngelCool · 12/07/2012 20:38

Oh, Behind, that is really sad. Sad

Well you've all pretty much confirmed my suspicions that it's anxiety-related :( . He did actually start with teeth-grinding, shortly after DD was born.

Well I guess I'll just have to keep an eye on it but hold back from snapping at him.

Thanks everyone for contributing.

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MrsH16 · 03/01/2018 19:57

My son aged 8 has just been diagnosed with a vocal tic, he’s made a ‘squeak’ for over a year now and the hospital told us best thing to do is completely ignore it! But now he does it all the time and it’s driving me insane, I feel awful writing this but it’s so frustrating I just want to tell him to stop it! I know he can’t help it which makes me feel worse but he is a good kid and has no stress or anxiety at all I don’t know why this is happening and am really struggling to follow doctors advice, any advice would be greatly appreciated

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