Swearing

[LadyInDisguise]

So ds is 8yo, nearly 9yo, and doesn't know any swear words as such. he knows some 'finger swears' but that's about it.

The problem starts when he is told he has been swearing but can not fantom why someone tells him that. He got told off to have written a swear word by his teacher (spelling mistake when he was trying to write something completely different but it was on the board where everyone could see it so she had to step in and say something)
Same with some friends when he didn't pronounce a word clearly (sit and shit for example).
Cue for him to vehemently reject the accusation of swearing and for the others not to believe him.

My issue is that I can 'teach' him what are the swears words so the he knows and can be careful as to what he says but then I am obviously opening the door for him to use them.
If I don't, he doesn't seem to be able to pick up the clues and guess what the swears words are.

So what would you do?

Absolutely teach him. Teach him the reactions he is likely to get if he uses them.

Sooner or later somebody will teach him- better that it's you.

yep you need to explain to him, quite impressed he has got to his age and doesnt know them yet! or at least some ie shit.

Seriously how had he got to 9 and never ever heard a swear word???? Have you never stubbed your toe really hard??? Does he not hear these words in passing on the street! Wow is all I can say! How fantastic!!! I'm not sure I'd let his innocence carry on be a shame to spoil it I reckon. He will learn them in time. How will you go about teaching them anyway ? That would be weird

Meant to put "I'm not sure I'd tell him, I'd let his innocence carry on"

Well I don't swear (and certainly not in english as it is not my first language lol). And DP doesn't either. The worst we have been from 'swearing' is to tell the dcs to shut up, which isn't really swearing.

We don't have a TV so no soap, X factor etc... on where they could have heard them.
And obviously school is a no no....

I have been thinking that I might explain him what others think they had heard next time so he knows. Doing a lesson (as these are the swear words you are not supposed to say) just doesn't feel right to me.
But yes it is surprising for dcs that age not to know some of them. Hence the reason I felt there is a need for me to explain/tell because it nearly feels 'unbelievable' for most people.