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Jealous of my mum!

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Buranda · 09/07/2012 10:08

Long story, but after my husband's business failed we had to move back into my parents while we get back on our feet. This happened when DS was 8 weeks old. It's been a tough few months, but the upsides is that I've had my mum to help me out massively. She's been amazing but as my maternity leave is drawing to an end and DS is due to go into nursery, I've started noticing that DS, who is 9 months old, doesn't seem to want me anymore.

He will reach out for anyone else who is around - especially my mum, and this is really upsetting for me. Also my mum, of course, loves the attention, and seems to be making it worse by taking him off me and then going to play with him.

I am so devastated by this and starting to resent my own mother. Of course the rational, intelligent me, keeps telling myself that I am his mum - I play with him, I am the one who gets up in the night to comfort him, I am the one preparing his food. But the emotional, sensitive me is getting eaten up by this. My DH keeps telling me I'm being silly and it's in my imagination.
Is this ridiculous and is this just my guilt about leaving him and having to go back to work full time?

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steffnexis · 09/07/2012 15:23

hey hun

well.... im no expert so this is just what ive found... i am a working parent but i have been lucky that i work 4 shifts on with 6 off and it allows me time with my little one... faith spends a lot of time with my parents when im in work and mum has the time and space to do a bit more with her than i do... eg when im home i have to cook and clean etc... and the garden is down a big set of concrete steps so faith cant go outside without me as she throws herself down the steps... whereas at my parents she gets to do painting and sticking and garden and walks etc all day with no interruptions... she LOVES this and when were at mine if she gets a bit bored she says "home" and puts her shoes on because she wants to go to my parents as they will focus 100% attention on her... i mean i drop her off and leave for work and im lucky if i get a bye bye off her sometimes lol

she also knows im always here so she is less huggy with me than with my partner and my parents and also witrh random strangers lol... BUT .... usually when she hurts herself/gets up in the night with a bad dream/is sick... im the one she wants and that always reminds me that im the one she would really miss she is just confortable in the knowledge that im there. i love her and she is always my girl lol.

your not being silly. its a normal reaction when you feel your little girl is rejecting you or not wanting to be with you all the time but its good for them to be comfortable in the knowledge that they dont have to cling to you xxx

chin up honey xxx

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