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4 year old DS quite aggressive / frustrated

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sheeplikessleep · 08/07/2012 13:43

DS1 has always been quite late with talking, but speech wise he is on-track now. He used to have tantrums, uncontrollable ones where he literally couldn't hear or listen to what I was saying. Either ignoring or distraction seemed to be the only solution. He grew out of them, or at least they seemed to be much more infrequent. I put them down to him not being able to communicate or express himself that easily.

But they seem to have come back with avengance. And not tantrums now, but just annoyance and frustration. He clenches his fists and mouth and just sort of growls with obvious frustration when something doesn't go his way. So if his brother takes a toy off of him, or I stop him playing on the Wii after a few games at the weekend. He just seems so angry and frustrated.

When he has calmed down, I ask him and he says he is "angry". I talk to him that growling and getting mad isn't good behaviour and he needs to talk to me and tell me if he feels angry. Any ideas on how I can help him to control his emptions a bit? He starts school in September, so of course it's playing on my mind. I've read a bit about the testosterone surge at 4 and I guess this might be that. Will he just 'calm down' with age? I'm wondering if anyone has used any particular strategies to help their own DC in a similar way / other experiences?

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sheeplikessleep · 08/07/2012 13:45

when he is in his 'angry' mode, I say firmly to him "don't growl at your brother" or "I'm not talking to you whilst you are shouting at me" and wait until he has calmed down.

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sheeplikessleep · 09/07/2012 11:24

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fionadeb · 09/07/2012 20:38

Its never easy dealing with kids. My DS is 3.5yr and he was early in doing everthing walking, talking, teeth...etc... He has devolped a terrible temper and seems to hit out alot lately ( especially at me) Maybe its the redhead in him !! We discipline him and he's put in time out but it does not stop him.
I'm putting this down to the age he is at and hoping things will improve when he starts preschool in Sept. Sorry I'm sure this isnt much help but I do feel your pain if tha helps at all.
Fiona
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