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really strong willed, stubborn 4 year old or could it be something else????

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NotInTheMood · 07/07/2012 19:58

you cannot bribe him or reason with him. Once he has made his mind up that is it even if it makes no sense at all!!! Examples are he refuses to eat at pre-school. He has been there for nearly 2 years it took him a year to settle in and accept he has has to go but he will not eat his lunch or snack. They have tried every trick in the book but from 9am til 3pm he will not give in!!! When I say goodbye he has to say goodbye over the TV monitor its like closure to him if he doesn't he will not let me leave.

Another example, his gd has him once every week the routine is gd picks ds2 up from our house then ds1 from school!!! However on the very odd occassion I have dropped ds2 around to his gd he refuses to stay. He is spoilt by his gd so it makes no sense that he would rather come shopping with me!!! And when i take him wit me because he has refused to with gd he looks merserable!!! He will happily go with his gd if he picks him up from ours!!! He has a strong attachment to routine and separation anxiety.

He is due to start school in september so I am worried. I have brought his uniform but he refuses to try it on point blank. It is a wrestle and if I do get it on he strips right off. God knows how I am going to get him to school!! Any ideas or thoughts???

When he is compliant he is so good. He is loving, clever and funny!! but when he has made his mind up he is is so stubborn.

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DeWe · 07/07/2012 22:03

Ds won't try on clothes. But when it's just "what you are wearing today" he's fine. Put the clothes away and the night before pop them out and say that's his clothes the next day.

I used to hate eating in strange places (still don't enjoy it) as I've a small appetite and I always worried about not finishing it. My packed lunch at juniors was a drink and a digestive biscuit. My dm reckoned I was better to take that and eat it, than a proper lunch and not touch it. I'd ask them to back off about eating. If he asks then give him it, but not make a fuss.

How is he at preschool? Does he enjoy it when he's there and does he have friends?

NotInTheMood · 09/07/2012 18:50

He seems to enjoy once there but has major separation anxiety. Its a lovely pre-school and lovely teachers. He does have friends but only likes to have a few and enjoys his own company. I just worried about him starting school as he hates change. He also hates the dentist, having his hair cut and photo done by strangers!!!

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