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Social problems for my 5 yr old DS

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Sopster · 02/07/2012 18:54

Hi Just posted the below in Primary Ed but thought maybe it would be more appropriate here?

Hi all,

My DS is 5.7. Today I was asked to go and see the headmistress at his school after he 'exposed' himself during a game in the playground. Despite being utterly mortified (though my mum tells me that I showed the boys my knickers at school at about the same age!) the headmistress was very kind about it and told me it certainly wasn't the first time this has happened in reception nor will it be the last. However she said she is concerned about his reaction to being told off. He was v indifferent, showed little emotion (though was physically shaking) and when she finished talking to him just said 'ok, bye' and walked off. He has been told off for minor incidents in class before and his teachers have expressed the same concern that he really isn't bothered. When I tell him off (which is rare as he is a pretty easy child at home) he also shows little emotion and seems to care little about what punishments are enforced. He has never been particularly cuddly or affectionate but he has a 2year old sister who he adores and plays beautifully with. When he goes to friends houses they always say he's been a pleasure to have. Whilst the teacher was v kind and stressed they are not labelling him anyway she said they will be monitoring him closely and making sure his Year 1 teacher is aware of their concerns (which are that it may just be how he deals with being told off or they may be some kind of developmental delay/problem). She said academically he is doing well. I know he is a very good reader as I read with the whole class so am aware of where he is (level 7, turquoise)but don't know much about where he is with numbers etc...

Anyway, sorry to ramble but my question to you all is has anyone else been through anything similar and how has it panned out?

I hasten to add we have had a chat tonight about where and when it's appropriate to get your willy out!!

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thisisyesterday · 02/07/2012 18:59

maybe he is just scared when he is told off (hence the physically shaking) and doesn't cause a fuss?

CheerfulYank · 02/07/2012 19:09

My friend's DD is like this (she's 6 and a half). She was supposed to apologize to a boy at school and they had to call my friend in because her DD was refusing to do it, no matter what. My friend told them she, too, is at a loss, as there is no consequence her DD really cares about.

I think it's just her personality...she is a lovely little girl really, just nails. :)

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