I am mortified. How should I handle this...

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My 4 yo dd is being a brat and I know that a lot of parents find the few months before school difficult so I am aware that some of her behaviour is quite normal.

I am friends with a mum on the street and her 3 yo ds often domes to play and I have spoken to her about my Dds behaviour. She has just brought her ds to play and has told me that when she asked if he wanted to come he said yes but only if my dd1 is not nasty to him. I have taken her into her room and told her that x didn't want to come over if she was nasty and we have talked previously about how you should treat your friends. She took notice and they are playing fine for now. We are good friends so I am not upset by her comments but i am gutted that her ds feels this way about my dd.

At that age being nasty could just be not playing their game. Should not worry.

I went through this with dd2. She was mean to her friends, sort of like she was testing them. It was horrible and so embarrassing. I just kept talking to her about it and we role played being nice and kind. 'oh yes, that's a good idea Samantha, let's play that'.

I don't know if it had any affect but it made me feel better. A year later she's a lovely girl. Ridiculously popular to boot.

It's good to know that your dd got past it savoy. I am just worried she is turning into a nasty child

Is your DS really nasty to this boy, more than just not always letting him have his own way? Unless she is often really unkind I think it was pretty nasty of the other mum to share that comment with you TBH.

I know I'm over critical of my DCs, when I step back a bit I see that their behaviour is mixed, just like any other child. I'm sure this boy has his moments too and if he hasn't yet, he will

your child is normal. tbh you made something of nothing by speaking to the other mum about it, and are at risk of labelling a perfectly normal dd as 'naughty'. work on her behaviour, as we all have to, but in private, and stop worrying about it. be grateful she's playing nicely. they're all brats at some point.