:( Shouted at DD and now feel bad.

[Galena]

DD (3.2) is going through a bit of a wilful stage at the moment - wandering off when out and giggling about it (reins/handholding in use now until this stops!), etc.

We are also toilet training. She's been doing fairly well with this - won't tell me when she needs to go, but as long as we put her on the potty every hour or so she stays dry all day - including over a few 3 hour shopping trips.

Today, she did a wee in the toilet when she got up, then, while eating breakfast she said 'Need the potty quickly' which means she'd wet herself. sigh I cleaned up and let her get on with playing. We then had a poo in the knickers.

2 hours, 2 accidents. When I was trying to clean her up, she was really uncooperative so I shouted at her. Now I feel bad. :( I know you're not supposed to shout at accidents when potty training, but I couldn't help myself. We've had 3 or 4 days of dry knickers, although poo is much more miss than hit so that shouldn't have been a surprise. I could just cry today though (I didn't sleep well, have PMT and feel really low). Tell me I haven't permanently damaged my child! :)

I know exactly how you feel, it's easy to get annoyed and we all shout when we perhaps shouldn't. But i assure you it will have made you feel far worse than your daughter. I'm sure she will have forgotten all about the incident within moments.

You weren't shouting at her for the accident it was the uncooperative part of the clean up. Explain that when mummy tells you to do something ie get your bot wiped you have to listen and be a good girl.
Then big praise and a chocolate button next time she goes to the loo.
And dont beat yourself up, being a mum is hard!

Reward chart was great with my DS. Hard not to get annoyed I know but it will put her off. Try to keep potty training days for when you feel positive about it ( use pulley up pants on those days). My ds nearly 4 and still has odd accident at night and if excited but does come with age.

Thanks all - we made our peace, had a cuddle and she had no more accidents all day. She gets chocolate button and sticker for each wee on the potty - 4 stickers if she does it independently (without me asking). And you're right - it wasn't the accident that really annoyed me (although it was frustrating) - it was the non compliance when cleaning her up.