postnatal/prenatal depression - did i cause this behaviour?

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I have been seeing a clinical psychologist for my dd behaviour and she suggested last week that there may be a link to explore between my depression and dd behavior :(

Anyone have experience of this? Did i cause her to be angry, not be able to control her emotions?

Thing is who knows? You can't go back and do it differently. All you can do is go forward and be positive.

Ds is hard work and when people say maybe he is stressed because you are / were stressed, I feel like pushing them over. If I could stop being stressed I would! And saying that doesn't help me feel less stressed either.

When you imagine having a child you want everything to be perfect but life is messy and things happen.

I understand nothing can change this but wondered if anyone else has been told this? Could the fact i was a bit depressed after the birth mean these problems now?

I had PND wih DS1, who was a differcult baby. 3 years later I have had DS2 who is a much easier baby. My HV said (along the lines of) " DS2 is more relaxed because you are, DS1 was probably the way he was because you were depressed"

I dont think it is at all helpfull for HV/HCP to say such things. On a low day this would realy upset me, im just refussing to believe it, I think my PND comes from, a bad delivery, a differcult baby, sleep derivation, hormones. So i dont think he was hard work because of me at all.

With DS2 i felt down (not depressed as such but low) during the pregnacy but this lifted as soon as DS2 was born and he is a happy easy baby. So my mood/hormones in pregnacy haven't effected him.

How old is your DC? what behaviour problems does she have?

I came on here tonight to see if there were any threads about 3 year old behavior as DS1 is a PITA at the moment, but i dont for one minute think this is to do with my PND