To not replace dummy??

[wifey6]

My DS will be 2 soon & has had a dummy for naps/bed & when upset since he was born. I have been weaning it off him now for a few weeks but have had a few set-backs with illness & an awful accident. However..when I was sterilising the dummy a few days ago I noticed it had a slight split in the teat..(still safe to use)...but I think my DS has noticed a he has stopped using it as much & will even fall
asleep without it. Am I right to let him still use it as its really putting him off wanting it?

Hmm, not sure - if you know you can sterilise it properly (accounting for the split) then probably better that he 'goes off it' in his own time.

DD is approaching 18m and has dummy in same situations. Hoping we'll be able to wean her off it soon. She naps at nursery without it but at home, it's different for some reason.

I agree...it's better he does it in his own time.. He doesn't nap during the day now so that's played a big part in weaning him off it. I have to laugh when I offer him his comfort toy & dummy & he throws the dummy away!

If he's already falling asleep without it and not that bothered I'd lose it I think. And I wouldn't still be sterilising it at 2 (years, not months presumably?) anyway, given that if he's anything like my dcs he'll have spent the day in the garden shovelling worms and stuff into his gob anyway

Not an expert though - ds1 would never take one and ds2 gave his up himself around 9 months.

Definitely 'lose' it. I took DGS (3.7) to the dentist yesterday as I was concerned about lower teeth looking wonky and his first question was "Does he have a dummy?"

Ok....thank you everyone. Will be going 'cold turkey' from today! EEEEKKK!!
I think as he has got through Biggs without it...it's more comfort than necessity at this stage. I will find them & get rid of them all!

I wouldn't 'lose' it but I wouldn't replace it either. Just let him keep the one he has until he gets rid himself, which it sounds like he will shortly.

naps....not Biggs-stupid iPhone!! Thank you for all the advice. Managed all day without it but did have it for bed. But to me that's still an achievement as he isn't using it during the day. Slowly but surely.

The exact same thing happened to my dummy addicted dd. She spotted the split - I told her it was a dangerous dirty dummy and it should go in the bin (thinking it would never happen) she marched to the bin and threw it away. I just did not mention it and when she did I fibbed and said Postman Pat was bringing her a new one. She clocked the postman for a few weeks and commented that he had not delivered the new dummy. I said what a useless postman he was (she played the game) and we never looked back. I think she secretly wanted rid of it too! My Mum thinks she will have a deep rooted hatred of postman but my Mum used a similar trick on me when I was little - telling me my much loved baby bottle (which I used to drink tea from!!!!!!) was going to a family of kittens. I bought it and harbour no ill feeling towards cats. :)

tappingmama....I think that's a great idea. My mum told me similar about my bottle...
Well last night he did great til 4am when he had a bad dream & used his dummy & has now left his dummy on the sofa while has has breakfast etc. I'm going to put it out of sight & see how he does.

DS had similar with his dummy.
It spilt and he started to stop using it as much.
I showed him the split, told him it was broken and asked him if he wanted to throw it in the bin.
So he put it in the bin himself, then when he tried to get it back out we just explained he had throw it away and it had to stay in the bin now.

Worked fine, he did it himself, no taking it from him, but he did drop his day naps instantly after that.