How my do I approach and deal with this-my 6yr old and boys in her class...?

[mum22girlys]

I went to my daughters parents teacher meeting this morning. She had a glowing report, both teacher and the head had nothing but good to say about my daughter. I am very proud. Her one concern was that she seems far too interested in boys. She always has a boyfriend or 3, she has been caught kissing and cuddling boys in the home corner during free play. On hearing this I was mortified. I have never been so embarrased. I just dont know how to deal with this. I know she doesnt watch or see anything or one in our home environment that behaves sexual or intimate in any way. The teacher says she isnt aware of who instigates it. How do I approach my daughter to explain this isnt appropriate and find out without thinking shes in trouble who is encouraging her to kiss etc in school. Any advice is appreciated.

Does she watch things on tv like iCarly and Victorious? They're often unsuitable for kids this age....or maybe is she waching films which are too old for her?

I was a bit like that aged 6 . Obviously not appropriate at school but should be handled gently. Might be worth reading up a bit on how children's sexuality and feelings develop. It's so innocent at this age, but she clearly enjoys the attention and physical contact. I rarely saw my dad when I was small and I think that explained a lot about my early obsession with boys. Also it's just normal exploration for some kids.

Maybe try talking to her about which boys she likes, why and what they do together. If she tells you about the kissing you can explain that this isn't allowed at school, and best to do when she's older. Then keep talking to the teacher and if it happens again have another chat, etc.

I'm struck by how embarrassed you say you feel - were you brought up to think this was terrible behaviour? I think it's quite sweet and definitely not the end of the world! Well worth handling carefully so she doesn't end up feeling it's shameful and wrong. And to keep the lines of communication open so you know what she's feeling and thinking.

And shouldn't the teacher be able to tell you who instigates it? Your DD is in the schools care so they should be monitoring the situation too and talking to you about it so you can work together on addressing it.

This is not sexual. Do you cuddle her? Do you hug her? She is doing the same.

A chat about it being OK with mum / dad /brother / sister but not everyone.