Kids not liking each other - how do you deal with it?

[watersign76]

Hi

DS is 4. A generally jolly little boy who seems to make and keep friends ok at nursery, well as ok as a 4 yr old...

Today he started telling us how he didn't want to go to nursery tomorrow as x was being nasty to him and so was y. These were incidents that happened at some point last week.

I feel upset (yes, I know I need to toughen up!) that he didn't tell us last week when it happened. Not so we could do something about it but at least we could comfort him.

I did encourage him to tell us when he is sad. He said he didn't as he forgot. We do 'best bit of the day' at the end of the day, to try to encourage positivity, I am now thinking should we start a "did we feel sad today?" bit too?

Then at his swimming lesson today, he was splashing a boy because he says the other boy is saying he does like DS and DS's friend who is also in the swimming class.

I am not being pfb, I do know that he can say/do things that result in upset in others and I don't always believe some of the things he says (as they don't always make sense or logic!). But I guess I want to encourage him if somebody is upsetting him to either tell the teacher etc or just try to ignore them...or is that way beyond what a 4yr old can manage?

Any tips?
TIA

Well in my experience they say things like this for very minor reasons....I definitely would no do a "did anything make sad" talk at the end of your days....as it's too negative...maybe keep the best bit chat for rght after nursery so it's fresh in his mind and he doesn't go to sleep thinking about it all.

Chat to his kyworker and check he's getting on ok with the others...it'sso common right through school though, you need to try not to worry too much or you'll be a right stressed out ball of angst before he finishes infants!

Hello

Thanks for the reassurance and good ideas.

And yes, I need to take it easy, this is just the start!!!

Thanks again

WS