Hi all, I posted on here a couple of weeks ago aftermy son (5.6) had been sent to the deputy headmistress for 3 incidents at school (taking a pen off another boy as his wasn't working, bragging about going swimming one night and using his arms elbows to prevent same boy sitting next to him). These incidents all involved the same boy who is a very close neighbour who my son has been friends with for 3 years. I was concerned that the parents of this boy had made a complaint about my son (which they had) and the school were acting on that. I have since been into the school and had a lovely meeting with headmistress and both class teachers who were all v positive about my son and reassured me whilst those incidents werenot nice they were pretty normal 5 year old behaviour (my son was also punished quite strictly by my husband and i at the time).
In the meantime these neighbours (who were once good friends of ours) have sent us an email saying that they are disappointed it has taken the school being involved for us to take our childs bad behaviour seriously, they cross the road when they see us out and have encouraged their son to keep away from ours (despite the teachers telling me they always play together at school and walk around holding hands at school) and have now invited every child in the class to their sons birthday party except my son (who appears to be his closest friend).
Today there is a note in my sons contact book saying there was an accident in the playground today when my son hit this other boy with a skipping rope because he was swinging it too close to his face. Both boys went to see the headmistress as the teacher couldn't get to the bottom of what had happened and the HM just told her to inform me and said the boys would be monitored closely at playtimes. I have spoken to my son tonight about it and he's said it was an accident and they were just playing but I have now asked him to keep away from this other boy as all these inceidents seem to involve him and I'm becoming increasingly worried about what the other parents will say next. They clearly think their son is being bullied by mine and this is just going to add fuel to the fire. I don't want to punish him for today as he says it was an accident and the teachers have given me no reason to think otherwise but I also really don't want them going around continually badmouthing him.
He is generally very good at home, dotes on his little sister and I have never had behaviour problems with him in the past. However I am realistic enough to know that he may be acting differently at school adn don't want to come across as a deluded parent.
I'm sorry this is so long but am so upset again tonight. I don't even know what I want anyone to say but an outsiders thoughts would be appreciated.Thanks x