Help just found 7 yo DD notebook and really upset by what she has written.

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Would so love some advice please. I was clearing away some of my just 7 yo DD things and I found a piece of paper where she had written her initials plus the initials of 3 boys on her class surrounded by a heart and equals love.

Next to that she has written 'touch my vagina'

In the past she has told me that she 'loves' one of these boys.

We have a very loving relationship and can talk together very easily but I really want to handle this well and get it right.

Any advice on what to say to her about this would be so appreciated.

Many thanks in advance

I.... Am honestly slightly shocked. Does she know what it means or has she just picked up the phrase from older kids?

I don't think it's surprising that a 7 yr old has used the word vagina. I would keep it fairly light-hearted. Have a chat with her and check out if she knows what, make sure she knows that it's private and we don't let anyone touch our vagina until we're much older, and we love them very much... etc.

sorry I meant "check out if she knows what it means"

Oh dear, i think you definitely have to talk to her 1 on 1, no dad or brothers present.
Ask her what she meant by that and explain that although Vaginas are nothing to be embarrassed about that you should never let anybody touch hers.

Sorry you had to read that!

Oh dear! Daughters can be a bother sometimes! My dd had an issue at school where and a boy were caught investigating each others bits in yr 2!! School went wayyyy OTT and informed me next time it happened it would be a safeguarding issue! Thing is whether parents like it or not kids do these things! Whether rich kids or poor kids, single parent family or two parent family.
They don't.need to have been exposed to any sort of abuse or bad tv programmes to do these things. I can remember playing doctors and nurses and mums and dads!
I would def have a chat with her explain that had this note been found at school the trouble she could have been in etc and maybe have a birds and bees chat with her. My dd is 8.5 now and has outgrown all these things thank goodness but I do remember 7 as a difficult year for her - and me!

Many thanks for your sensible advice, I will definetely have a one to one chat with her.