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right way to deal with it?

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ellliebelle · 18/06/2012 16:20

dd1(5) has generally been the dream child very very well behaved in generall. dont get me wrong shea had her moments but nothing major.

at the weekend its like she has become a different child she just moaned all weekend about nothing she got in big sulks and strops and cried a lot :( really difficult to see she is usually such a happy child

any way the point of my post is today after school teacher approached me and said at play time a child was telling dd not to do something dd was clearly not going to liaten and lasged out hitting the child on hwr arm with a rubber hoop she had in her hand. teachwr said dd had time out for 3 mins and apologised. teacher was happt with this but felt she ahould let me know

so getting home i was torn as felt dd ahould be disaplined by me ao she fully underatands the severity that we dont lash out no matter what the situation but also dh and i jave always gone by the rules that id the incident has already been delt with then its over with any way i decided to send dd upstairs and to make a sorry card for the girl she hit before she could play in the garden with the others and alao told her she can no.longer invite her friend for tea this week. wouls you say this was adequate?

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paranoid2android · 18/06/2012 18:23

Has anything happened to upset your daughter, perhaps something at school that you don't know about? I would avoid punishment and focus more on giving your daughter and you some special time together and trying to connect with her so that she might open up. If its a sudden change maybe something is bugging her

Wellthen · 18/06/2012 19:13

I think you are being a little harsh actually, especially in not letting her friend over. I would generally say that beyond the 'I'm very disapointed' talk, if an incident has been followed up at school then you shouldnt add additional punishments otherwise it can escalate and the punishment doesnt fit the crime.

If you are having continual problems with a child then a two pronged attack (school and home) can be very useful but I dont think its necessary in this case.

I would get her to make the card, discuss the incident with her and then leave it at that.

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