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DS pushes me away

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whenhenshaveteeth · 18/06/2012 13:56

DS is almost 3 and I've been at home with him since birth apart from 1 day a week when he goes to nursery.

I love him more than anything but recently (the past 6 months) he's been pushing me away and gradually got a lot closer to his dad. I'm thrilled that he's gets on with his dad and that he's having fun but I'm hurt that I'm being excluded.

I think he's partly due to the fact that I'm quite girlie and that I don't automatically think of boys stuff when it comes to playing, unlike my husband who seems able to make wonderful stuff with sticks, but I'm trying and doing my best.

I also think that because I'm at home all day with him, I end up being the "policeman" half of the time as he needs some discipline. So when DH gets home, it's all fun and games when I'm preparing dinner on my own in the kitchen.

Despite all my efforts it's getting worse and he starting to say mean things to me like: "we're going to see the castle later, but not with you just with daddy". When I get him up in the morning, the first thing he says to me is "daddy". When I tell him off he cries for his daddy. He occasionally hits me too.

I don't know what to do. I feel pushed out of the family and hurt that my baby is turning on me. I also feel it's unfair as I was under the impression little boys loved their mummy. I'm also a bit scared that it's only going to get worse as I'm pregnant with DS2. I don't want to be a boy-producing-machine who's only useful to make food and clean the house.

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exoticfruits · 18/06/2012 19:27

Maybe it is the hormones! He is a small child and he loves you to bits. It isn't a competition-daddy is bound to be more exciting when he gets in-you are taken for granted. If you were out at work and DH at home it would be the other way around.
Make sure that DH gets some of the boring stuff and you get some of the exciting stuff. Discuss it with DH and get him to stop statements like 'just daddy'. Just make a joke of it first thing like 'tough-you are stuck with mummy' and tickle him or something silly. Don't let him know how you feel or he will be worse!

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