Potty training- too early?

[Reallea]

I bought my DS a potty and the first time I showed it to him at 21 months he straight away did a wee in it (he goes to nursery so I guess he knew the drill).
However i have now tried to potty train him at nearly 25 months and its not going too well - i'm wondering if it's too early-my husband thinks maybe it is (he tells me this one week in- I'm furious that he didn't express an opinion before I started but now he's telling me two of his colleagues told him children shouldn't be potty trained till they are three!?) please help and tell me your opinions on right age and how long it should take.. And whether I should stop and come back to it in a year?

I have a DC2 who is 15 weeks which is why I didn't potty train when i first brought the potty home... For a month DC1 has been running around with no nappy on whilst at home and after 2 days of accidents he had nailed it so I waited a couple of weeks until my inlaws had left after the jubilee weekend and 7 days ago moved on to pants and trousers.

I thought he'd been doing pretty well, we had a sticker reward chart in the nappy free time so I haven't really used it this week as he was doing wees pretty regularly in the potty (although only when i ask him to ). I have continued to give extra special glittery Thomas the tank engine stickers for number twos. Anyway despite him doing all this poos in the loo or potty for the last two days we seem to have regressed today with two poo accidents, and also he has wet himself several times. I totally expect accidents but we seem to have got worse - Could I have upset him by getting him to try the potty too early? Could he be fed up with me asking him if he needs to go? Should i just expect the process to take weeks and weeks?

Two of the accidents were whilst we were out at soft play this afternoon but this morning was at home when i asked him if he wanted to go he told me 'no wee' and then peed through his trousers into the kitchen floor within minutes!

Nursery seems to be going well- i picked him up from a morming in the same trousers I dropped him off in today ( yesterday was good too but the day before he had an accident) but I am assuming they are telling him to use the potty rather than waiting for him to take the initiative

DD1 was potty trained at exactly 2 years old, she was ready at around 22 months but we moved house and I was expecting DS so we left it till she was 2, no problems.

Hearing boys were sometimes slower, we were going to leave it a while with DS but we went out for a day at the seaside and forgot to take nappies - and that was it, he never wore them again, on his second birthday.

I work in a nursery now, and have lots of children around the age of 3 either still in nappies or training, they can have just as many accidents at 3 as they can at 2, believe me! I would give it a couple of weeks doing what you're doing. If your DS is ready he will succeed, good luck.

I have been a nursery officer for 16 years and helped to potty train a lot of children.

I think the problem is when children are sometimes in nappies sometimes in pants, it causes confusion. If you really want to train him set a few days aside where u won't ever be to far from a toilet but him in pants and gently remind him every half an hour to tell u if he needs a wee.

If he has loads of accidents after the first 3 days he is not ready and put back into nappies and try again in a few months.
But back and forth in nappys and pants throughout the day will just confuse him.

Good luck

My boys have been potty trained at 24 months, 26 months and 21 months respectively. The youngest had a nappy rash at 21 months so we left his nappy off and showed him the potty (and had read a couple of books about using the potty) in the hope that he would wee there. He did that day and then refused to wear a nappy in the day time again - within a week he was reliably dry in the day.