other people not cleaning DD properly

[spanishring]

Not sure where to post so trying here.

I have noticed that when (some) other people look after my DD occasionally they don't clean her properly and she still has residual poo in her vagina. I know that to clean her thoroughly you have to dig around a bit and sort of open everything up - but I can't stand the thought of her not being properly cleaned.

I have no idea if I should just let this go, if it often happens with little girls. I cant imagine TBH how I would ever bring it up with anyone - the childminder for example.

It isn't really bad just residual IYSWIM

I feel a bit weird even posting it here but it does really bother me.

I have had this issue before and I found sitting who ever needs to be down and just mentioning it. If you don't say anything nothing will change I know its only occasionally but still worth mentioning.
Try and be calm and just explain that if she isn't cleaned properly it could cause thrush

Hope this helps

It does help. Even in that I'm not the only one. Thank you - I'll try

How old is your dd? I assume she is still in nappies? If she is then you need to do as lovelivelaugh says. If she is potty trained then you might just have to clean her properly at home as childminders/preschools etc like children to wipe their own bottoms which can leave a lot of mess IME.

You have no choice you have to mention it, it can lead to urine infections. In young babies this can cause all sorts of problems.

TBH i would question the ability of whoever is caring for your daughter, surely cleaning her properly is basic child care?

She's 22 months not potty trained.

It's just that this isn't the first time ( first person) it's happened with. My sister in law mentioned ( when i discussed it with her to get her opinion) that she's very neat and tidy and tucked in so perhaps it feels invasive to whoever is cleaning her.

I will say something though.

We used to have a couple of friends (female) who looked after dd occasionally, when she was in nappies. When I first took them through everything they'd have to do (neither has children, & we also use cloth nappies), I made a point of showing them how to clean her 'bits', & said not to feel awkward about cleaning right in the middle. This seemed to do the trick, as she was always clean. Bit trickier for you though with the childminder though, as she should know about this stuff. I think you just need to bite the bullet & talk to her, as as others have said, if could cause problems for your dd otherwise, & might be uncomfortable for her too.

Does the childminder have alot of children to care for at once? Sometimes It may be that the childminder has to do a quick job or doesn't do the front at the same time. Is it possible that the childminder hasn't seen it? I've seen nappies being changed where the front of the nappy is wiped over the front to get most of it off but no wipe there. Mainly at the back. I always make sure I do front and back as it can get everywhere!

I think the problem is that in each case the person hasn't changed a little girls nappy for a long, long time. CM is new to CMing though has daughters (grown up) and other person is a bit squeamish!
I think she'll be fine with me mentioning it - she's pretty clued up in all other ways