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9 wo constantly cranky

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DeeBeee · 10/06/2012 20:49

I am a first time mum and am starting to reach my wits end with DS1. He is just constantly cranky. It's not colic or anything like that as he does not have non-stop screaming sessions. He is happy while nursing and usually for 10-15 mins afterwards, and then he'll start whimpering and crying. From then on it's a constant battle to keep the crying at bay. Everything I do sort of works for a few mins and then the crying starts again - for example 5 mins in the rocking chair, then 5 mins on my shoulder then 5 mins listening to the kettle boiling which soothes him etc. Mornings are easier, afternoons a real struggle. He has some better days but not many. I am totally exhausted from constantly doing this.

I thought it might be hunger and have tried topping him up with formula as much as he'll have, just to see but it didn't help. He's gaining weight ok. It might also be overtiredness but it's a terrible struggle to get him to sleep during the day, the only thing that works is a walk in the pram. Even in a sling he'll drop off for 30 mins max and then wake up crying. Impossible to put him down in a Moses basket to sleep, even in a darkened room with white noise, he'll just cry. So I manage to get him to nap 1.5hrs morning and afternoon whilst walking him in the pram, and maybe the odd 10-15 min nap here and there.

This is a long rambling post, I guess I am just getting really worried that he is an unhappy baby or I am doing something wrong. Any ideas of things to try? Any positive stories of babies like mine settling down??

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HidingInTheUndergrowth · 10/06/2012 21:02

It might not be full blown colic but it could still be wind or general tummy trouble. My dd (now 11 weeks) suffered terribly with trapped wind and would do lots of grunting and moaning about 15 - 20 mins after eating. We spent a lot of time winding after feed and kept her upright as much as possible which seemed to help. It has got better as her digestive system has got more mature and now she does some cracking burps. :o

If it's only been happening a few days or a week it could be a tummy bug that seems to be making the rounds. DD had this and was seriously grumpy for a few days. I then also got it and had a sudden renewed sympathy for the poor little mite.

bonnieslilsister · 10/06/2012 21:05

Congratulations DeeBee. Try not to worry...he sounds very normal for a newborn. A lot want to be feeding for long periods or have frequent short feeds. They are all different. The most important advice I can offer, and I wish someone had said this to me 15 yrs ago, is to remember everything is a phase and and just because he is like this now does not mean he will be like this next week or next month. He will get more alert and more responsive and it really will become easier and easier Smile

The thing that worried me about your post was if you are walking all that time each day to help him sleep when are you able to rest and relax? I hope you can. Have you got support ie partner, any family?

Hope he settles so you can relax and enjoy this time xx

Franup · 10/06/2012 22:01

I've had two high maintenance babies. My third was similar and had a distinct refusal to do 'happy awake' as my friend calls it. The only time he would sleep for any length of time was in his pram so we walked everywhere. If your life permits you to do this then do it. But if I'd nice if you can walk somewhere like local baby groups. Even cranky babies like these. You are also doing the right thing in keeping him close, moving from room to room. Get the baby gym and mobiles out if you haven't already for other amusement.

He will grow out of it. My ds was napping in his cot in the day by six months and I am anal about bedtime from a very young age so always got a bit of me time in the evening, which I think you need with an unsettled one.

DeeBeee · 11/06/2012 16:03

Thanks Bonnies, you hit the nail on the head, I do worry that he'll be like this all the time. I hope it's just a phase. I have support, my mum helps out so I am lucky in that respect. Franup, 'happy awake' time is exactly what I am so keen for, he has so little of it. Default setting seems to be 'cry'. Makes me feel terrible, like I don't know and can't understand my own baby, to help with whatever is bothering him all the time :(

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