Feeling panicked need support

[Girlsville]

Just after a bit of moral support
DH has just left to go on a stag weekend until late Sunday night! Leaving me alone with dd1 who is 2 and 3 months and dd2 who just turned 1. Dd1 iBooks like she is coming down with something and was up screaming in the night which is very unusual for her and dd2 teething!
I am normally alone with girls all day anyway ( tho recently returned to work three days a week) and put them to bed alone! But something about the thought of a whole weekend alone is very daunting and am feeling a but unsettled? Have never been able to sleep well alone when dh out! Never mind with responsibility of Dd s all night.
Just wanted someone to tell me at will all be fine and to pull myself together!

am sure you will be fine - my DH is away on tour often for short bursts so I know how you feel, I only have the one though, but if he is ever ill it is usually when I'm unsettled by being alone, sods law!! I usually try and plan a few things to do during the day at least, like meeting up with a pal with their kid(s) at a park or toddler group, or even just going to someone elses house for an hour can break up the 'alone-ness'. :) and do you have anyone that can pop by to see you, even play with your little 'uns for a bit, give you an hour to do something for yourself (like have a bath, its quite difficult to get stuff like that for yourself when you're on your own!) best wishes

Girlsville, so know that feeling of anxiety when you know you're not going to get the help you usually do, it is daunting so don't be hard on yourself - its very much a two person job if you have the luxury of a helpful partner!! You will TOTALLY be ok though chick, the fear of it often worse than the reality! I do the same as brightonbleach, organise some people to see and some fun things to do. Do you have family/anyone close by who could give take them off your hands for an hour or so to give you a break? You'll be great don't worry! Us mums rise to these challenges and cope far beyond what we think we will! And just remind yourself its only for a day or two and be over before you know it!

How's the weekend going Girlsville? You're nearly half-way through now. Just wanted you to know I'm in the same boat and find it really hard. I have a 14m gap- DS is 19m and DD is 5m. DH is away a lot overnight and I find it quite gruelling to start the day (often at 0600) and still have to feed DD at 1030 at night and then also be up with her in the night as she's nowhere near sleeping through and before I know it, it's the next day again. This week I hardly saw anyone and it made me realise just HOW MUCH of a difference it makes if you can invite a friend for coffee for 1 hour in the morning or whatever. Even if they're not your favourite person, it's adult time and makes the day go quickly. Take care of yourself!

hows it going? next week I am on my own with my DS for 8 days as DH is playing overseas, gulp! at least its not halfterm so I can get to some toddler groups and I will have to arrange plenty of visits and also cross fingers for nice weather :)

Hillsides
Thank u so much for ur support! Half way through!
As predicted its obviously much better than anticipated! The thought more daunting than the reality...... But I was up for most of the night as dd2 was teething or so I thought and unsettled and dd1 who never wakes woke at one thirty screaming and when I went in she told me her hair bobble had fallen out and her hair was in her face! She then went straight back to sleep but I couldn't and was up with dd2. Sods law as neither of them wake in the night normally?
Today made plans to visit a friend and her children this afternoon w head a lovely time but dd2 was grizzly and when we got home turns out she has a temperature. Great timing!! So no doubt will be up all night again ahhhhh but then at least only one more day till dh home.
Dd1 however is being a angel and good fun and good company in the days which is making things better

Sorry hillsides should have said hi ladies!

I don't think hillside is that bad a title... particularly as you're tired. DH owes you one, BIG TIME! Bring on that manicure-pedicure deluxe treatment afternoon.

Thanks craving I agree! Just had to give dd2 milk to settle her poor thing very hot! She hasn't been fed in night for months! But hopefully she can rest now and me too! I see u have 14 month gap! Mine is 15 months so in similar position!! Agree makes difference to have adult company to get u through day especially if no adult coming home to join at night