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Took nappy away at night on Sunday - so far two dry nights followed by two wet nights - what to do?

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13lucky · 31/05/2012 17:22

Hi there, am after some advice if anyone can please. My ds is 3 and a half and has been toilet trained for over a year without any problems. Until this week he has been in pull ups overnight but in the last couple of months has had many dry pull ups in the mornings - I'd say 70% were dry, and the rest had just a bit of wee in. Last Sunday morning when he took his pull up off though, it was sodden...totally and utterly soaked and he said he couldn't be bothered to get up for a wee! So, I was thinking perhaps we should just get rid of the nappies and perhaps it is him just weeing in it when he wakes up rather than when he's asleep. So Sunday night and Monday night were great successes and he was dry both nights. Then Tuesday night he woke us by calling out that he was wet...and indeeed he was soaked in the night about 2am and we changed the whole bed and PJs etc. The last night he was wet when my dh went in at 6.30am - although not as wet as night before....so the question now is do I continue or put him back into nappies...it's only been 4 nights so not sure. My instinct is to give it a few more nights but my dh says he isn't ready and it's not fair on him. What do you think? Thank you.

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dangerousliaison · 31/05/2012 17:28

i would say he isnt ready, as he isnt waking in the morning a weeing, he is weeing in the night.

could you put him on the toilet with out waking him too much in the night, this woked for my dsis boys but not for my dd, she would wake and be a pita. so I waited untill she was consistantly dry after a failed few attempts.

I put the potty by her bed aswell in incase she wanted it in the morning.

13lucky · 31/05/2012 17:32

Thanks dangerous...not sure about the putting on the toilet without waking thing...I'm not sure it would work for him (or me!). My dd was so easy...dry at night at same time as in the day so this is all new to me. Perhaps he's just not ready yet.

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Timandra · 31/05/2012 17:32

Have you asked him if he woke up to wee?

I think that's where your answer lies.

If he's weeing in his sleep and not waking until later he's not ready. If he's waking and weeing in the bed because he can't be bothered to get up I'd stick it out because he'll soon realise that it's uncomfortable and far more disruptive to wee in the bed.

Have you tried taking him to the toilet before you go to bed? They will often go then without even waking up fully and it helps them to stay dry through the night.

13lucky · 31/05/2012 17:38

Hi Timandra, I asked him if he was wet when he woke up or whether he did a wee after he woke...but he says he didn't wee...his bed was just a bit sweaty!!! (quite a look 'sweaty' I'd say!!!)...so I am none the clearer. Although when it happened at 2am, I'm pretty sure that would have been in his sleep.

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dangerousliaison · 31/05/2012 18:29

I think its more common in boys to take a little longer at night.

Timandra · 31/05/2012 20:09

I guess that means he didn't wake up to wee.

He might be dry sooner if you stick it out but I think I would find it hard having to change the bed in the night lots. I know I would end up getting a bit frustrated and the child would pick up on that. Them getting stressed about it is the last thing I'd want so I'd go for the easy option and leave it a few more weeks but that's just me.

If it's important to you and you can breeze through all the washing and bed changing cheerfully you won't do him any harm if you keep trying. It's just really important that he doesn't get upset about it.

13lucky · 31/05/2012 20:45

Thanks guys...I decided to put him back in a pull up as that's what he asked for tonight and like you say, I don't want him to get upset about it. Thanks for the advice.

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cheeseycharlie · 31/05/2012 23:17

Carry on definitely. 2 out of 2 is good. My diary shows that over the first 3 weeks of nappy-less nights we had a 50% hit rate. There were dryer and wetter spells within that. Then suddenly the setting stopped. Your dc can do it. I think it confuses them to switch back and forth with and without nappies. Now you have started try and stick with it. Just accept that you will need to do laundry every day for a while!

olivo · 01/06/2012 20:01

i would keep going. DD had a few accidents in the first couple of weeks but we persisted, and have only had 1 accident in the past fortnight.

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