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Help, my daughter feels my boobs - all the time! How can I stop her?

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kathsmj · 04/12/2003 19:44

This may sound bizarre, but I am desperate for help, it really is getting a little embarressing.
I haven't visited mumsnet for a while and am feeling I need a little friendly advice on this delicate subject.
I am a very easy going person, not much ruffles me but I am getting a little self conscious when my 20 month old Daughter whimpers for me to pick her up and I end up with her glued and lodged with her hand down my top fondling my boobs. She doesn't stop, whenever she gets onto my lap, has a drink, when she's going to sleep, she even climbs onto me in the middle of the night and puts her hand down my nightie.
I know it is probably a comfort thing, she loves to cuddle in but this has been going on for months and I stopped breastfeeding when she was 6 months. She's wonderful and I don't mind her doing it but wondered if there were any tricks to help her use an alternative object to use and feel for comfort rather than my boobs.

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Bekki · 04/12/2003 19:51

Sorry no real advice but my ds1 was just the same. From 10 months onwards he was obsessed! Women would lovingly pick him up and coo over him and he would grab their boobs and stroke them. It was all very strange and embarrasing but he stopped doing it at around 2 years of age. Although he is still fascinated by them.

Evita · 04/12/2003 20:45

Alas, I have no advice either but my friend's little girl uses her mom's nipple as her 'comfort object', i.e. instead of a teddy etc. she strokes her nipple. I think it's driving my mate a bit nuts too and her nipples are feeling rather sore. Guess it must feel lovely and reassuring. Will be interested to see if anyone gives you any more helpful advice and I can pass it on to my friend.

jmg · 04/12/2003 21:00

No advice but I'm also fed up with this - my DD however is 5.5!!!!

I have put a stop to it when we are outside the house but if we are cuddling at home her had still goes straight down my front!

I do take it back out again but sometimes it just turns into a wrestling match!

norma · 04/12/2003 21:41

Hiya, my ds is the same age and he does it to me too! But he is also fascinated by my wobbly caesarian belly and grabs at it and pinches. He does it to my mum too and it's sooo embarassing!

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kathsmj · 04/12/2003 22:02

Thanks for the feedback so far, just been with her in bed and she took ages falling to sleep, again with hand firmly attached to boob.
I am grateful for the responses, it is just as I suspected, no ideas on how to dissuade her, but reassuring to know I am not alone and that it is a girl thing aswell as a boy thing. I feel sorry for you JMG, I can't imagine having this problem for the length of time you have, and yes, Evita, the nipples do get very sore, it is annoying. I too will be watching this space for further feedback, thanks all.

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Jimjams · 04/12/2003 22:09

Both of mine have done/do this. DS1 is now 4 and half and only does it very occasionally. He did it until he was about 20 months and then discovered his own - he used to fall asleep with his hand down his pyjama top. He only does that now when he is stressed.

DS2 (23 months) does it a lot still. I just remove his hand. He'll stop eventually. (he's still feeding though so I don;t suppose he'll stop for a while- that's my fault though.

Jimjams · 04/12/2003 22:10

Both of mine have done/do this. DS1 is now 4 and half and only does it very occasionally. He did it until he was about 20 months and then discovered his own - he used to fall asleep with his hand down his pyjama top. He only does that now when he is stressed.

DS2 (23 months) does it a lot still. I just remove his hand. He'll stop eventually. (he's still feeding though so I don;t suppose he'll stop for a while- that's my fault though.

popsycal · 04/12/2003 22:15

my ds smacks my bottom if i bend over!!!
i blame his dad for this!!!

miggy · 04/12/2003 22:20

all mine have done this too. DD (4.5) is the last to still do it (luckily-would be embarrasing with 10yr old). We too have the in/out/in fights. I have a mole under my arm and she calls that my nipple and fiddles with it, esp at night. v.painful! Someone told me that if you put a soft piece of cloth inside your bra for a day or so, then could grad. transfer their affections to this.Havent tried this though. The embarrasing time with mine was when they were little and riding in supermarket trolleys, shoving hands down your top at every opportunity

twiglett · 04/12/2003 22:31

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