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Dd nearly 5 still wetting the bed...

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notsurewhyohwhy · 31/05/2012 12:44

My dd is nearly 5, she has been dry in the day time from the age of 2, but has been wearing pull ups until last week! I decided to try to stop her wearing them.

She wets the bed very night unless I take her to the toilet about 2-3 times in the night. If I only take her once She will defiantly wet the bed.

Last night I went to bed at 9.30 so didn't take her to the toilet atall and she wet her bed then I took her in my bed and she wet mine too.

How can I help her?? I really would prefer her to not have to wear pull ups, but I am wondering if I am forcing it on her? But I just feel that it's not right for a 5 year old to wear nappies to bed. Also when dd sleeps at my sisters house she never wets her pull up and says she just holds it in??

Advice is much needed.

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bamboobutton · 31/05/2012 12:49

it's all down to hormones as to when they are dry at night and there is no "training" to solve it.

keep her in a pull-up at bedtime until the pull-up has been dry in the morning for a few days.

i think up to 7yo is considered normal for nigh wetting.

if she has been holding it in at your sisters it probably means she has been awake the whole night to hold it.

fridayfreedom · 31/05/2012 12:55

my son now 13 wet the bed for ages at night, but not every night. He's a really heavy sleeper. He grew out of it eventually. we didn't make a big thing out of it. He did use pull ups for quite a while though.
Think 5 is still quite young to be worrying but I appreciate it can be quite annoying. We used a washable waterproof mat on the bed under his bottom which helped protect the mattress, we used to take it when we went away as well. You can also get duvet protectors.

AngryFeet · 31/05/2012 12:59

I thought DD would never get there but she has this week at 7.5 years old. We did go to the enurisis clinic but all they did was tell us to get her to drink more during the day and use the loo regularly then stop drinks at 6pm. We tried this but often she was thirsty at 7 and I let her drink anyway. Either way I think it is one of those things that you can't force and it is silly for you to get up 3 times a night to take her to the loo. You can't train at night IMO you just need to wait for it to happen. I kept her in pullups as the washing everyday was too much (always duvet, pillows and sheets).

AngryFeet · 31/05/2012 13:00

Oh and DD wet a lot every single night then a couple of weeks ago the pull ups got much lighter then suddenly it stopped completely and we took them off her :)

MrsSquirrel · 31/05/2012 13:01

It is entirely normal. Different kids develop at different rates. As bamboobutton says, it's to do with hormones.

My dd wet the bed most nights until 1 month before her 7th birthday. Then within a week, she was dry every night and has been ever since.

ClaireDeTamble · 31/05/2012 13:10

Just leave her in pull ups until she is ready. DD is 4y7months and has been dry at night for about 5 months - she has been dry in the day since 2y3months.

As others have said, it is hormonal. DD became dry at night very suddenly and it coincided with a change in behaviour that was very clearly hormonal (think mini teenager). Thankfully the worsening behaviour didn't last, but the dryness at night has.

We left her in pull-ups for about a week after her first dry night - we took her out of them when it became clear that it wasn't a fluke but we did leave the waterproof sheet on for a couple of months. Since she's been out of them, we have had once accident and that was when she fell asleep downstairs and we put her straight in bed without putting her on the toilet first. Since then, we religiously make sure she goes on the toilet before bed even if we have to hold her up half asleep and we've had no other accidents.

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notsurewhyohwhy · 31/05/2012 20:47

Thank you all for the comments, I guess I better go to get more pull ups then. My neice who is not even 3 yet and who only started potty training at 2 1/2 years is completely dry at night.

I suppose they all do it at different times.

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UnnamedFemaleProtagonist · 31/05/2012 20:53

It is like trying to train your hair to grow faster. Leave her in pull-ups.

madwomanintheattic · 31/05/2012 21:00

Dd1 was dry at night at 8. Ds1 is still not dry at night and he's 10. Dd2 has been dry day and night since 2 and not once ever, ever, wet the bed. She's 8.

Honestly, it's all fine. Until 7 it's not even regarded as an issue. Perfectly normal. Lifting etc isn't a great idea as it just trains her to wee in the night, even if she's half asleep....

susiedaisy · 31/05/2012 21:03

My dc were dry at completely different times
Ds 1 not dry until he was 13
Ds2 dry at 6
Ds1 took a tablet called desomelt every evening at bedtime to help but until he hit puberty nothing really worked!

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notsurewhyohwhy · 31/05/2012 21:09

I'm wondering if I should buy some resubale nappies? I have found some on ebay which are cheap here

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Willabywallaby · 31/05/2012 21:12

My 4YO has very wet pull ups every night but when he first potty trained a year ago he used to have a few dry ones a week. How does that happen? I thinking should've taken the night nappy off when he potty trained.

My DS1 I took out of night nappies with no dry nights at 4.8 and we had 2 weeks of wet beds and then he 'got it' and we had dry nights, but he usually wakes to go to the loo in the middle of the night.

Is the best way just to wait for dry nappies?

Sorry for hijack

LucieMay · 31/05/2012 21:19

My ds is six and still wears pyjama pants (he gets upset if I call them nappies as he thinks he's still a baby) and it's not a big deal. There are pull ups available up till age 15 I think and they've always worked well. He potty trained quite early and has always been very good during the day time but his body just isn't ready at night. There's no point worrying or trying to train your dd just have to wait till she's ready. When he was about to start school I tried everything, no drinks an hour before bed, wee before bed, waking him up to go to the loo, none of them worked and I felt so mean waking the poor thing up and forcing him onto the toilet. Took him to the doctor who reassured me there was nothing to worry about. The pj pants are very good, comfy and rarely leak. Apart from the extra cost it's not a problem at all.

kaylachio · 31/05/2012 21:21

Ds1 was 5 when we approached GP.He has always slept really deeply. We went to the Enurisis clinic did the 7 glasses of water a day, nothing in the last hour before bed, charts etc with no result. The nurse finally told us about the alarm, www.eric.org.uk/ You clip the sensor inside inside pants and the little box is pinned to PJs. If the sensor gets wet it vibrates and makes one of several random noises. It worked. DS really wanted it to work and wasn't stressed about it. No problems over the past couple of years since. It's costly(70ish), but not as costly as dry cleaning feather duvets and constantly washing bedding. I think as they get older they are not happy about it and wetting every night, even in pull ups, starts to leave a smell (more so with boys?). Like everything to do with family it's all very personal and down to what you can live with. All the best.

CecilyP · 31/05/2012 21:24

DCs seem to vary a great deal, but I thought that if I waited for dry nappies at night, I would wait for ever. So I took DS out of nappies at about 3.2, put a plastic sheet on the bed and hoped for the best. And it was fine; the plastic sheet was put away, unused when I next changed the sheets. DS probably wet the bed about half a dozen times between ages 3 and 7.

klaxon · 31/05/2012 21:26

I would not put her in nappies, she may find it a bit degrading.

My nearly six year old is in the same boat. It's just hormones. Don't stress.

And don't compare your kid to anyone else's they are all different, all special. :)

CecilyP · 31/05/2012 21:27

Sorry, my reply was for Willabywallaby.

Rowgtfc72 · 01/06/2012 21:16

Dd is five now and been dry at night since christmas She was dry during the day since 18mnths. We used nappies as she was as big as a seven yr old, just did them up and pulled them up like pull ups. Two dry nights and we took them away, never had a wet bed since. I stressed too , posted on here , tried everything. They do it when theyre ready.

piratecat · 01/06/2012 21:21

dd is 10 and still in drynites.

i keeping it will happen!

piratecat · 01/06/2012 21:21

kepp 'hoping' it will happen

GurlwiththeFrothyCurl · 01/06/2012 22:06

I will make you all feel better as I'm sure your kids will be dry well before my DS is. He is now 22 and has never had a dry night without medication. We have tried everything and seen loads of specialists, but he simply cannot have a dry night.

UnnamedFemaleProtagonist · 01/06/2012 22:07

Dry nites are so bloody dear! Thank god my nearly 6 year old is tiny enough to fit in no5 pull ups. He is conscious of wearing them but won't be going on any sleepovers soon so should be ok,

piratecat · 02/06/2012 09:19

gurl, that is really difficult for you all. i wonder why it happens.

drynites are very expensive, it makes me mad. i try to find the offers, they are sometimes £4 a pack in Morrisons, or two for £9 in tesco.

prefer to buy them than have stinky wee sheets and child to wash off every day tho.

madwomanintheattic · 02/06/2012 16:25

Ds still uses drynites at 10. And wets through to sheets, duvet, pillows most nights. I should have shares in manufacturers, really. Piratecat, on weds we have ds's first psych appt which is to target his new 'dry' campaign and support him through it. Have to dig out one of our three enuresis alarms and give it another go. It's our best chance I think. She's going to see him all the way through. Fingers crossed.

GurlwiththeFrothyCurl · 02/06/2012 16:41

Piratecat, I think it is because a small number of people don't make the hormone needed to be able to last all night. Or it might be that he is too lazy to get out of bed! He is on the autistic spectrum and has learning difficulties.

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