4yo stressing over things that happened a while ago

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DS is 4.6. He has just come through to tell me he's distressed because a boy he knows has "just" jumped on him in the bedroom and hurt him. We are at home, there is no other boy here - he's talking about an incident that happened months ago, when we were last at this boy's house. And yet he's distressing about it just now.

He's done this before with other things - he'll suddenly say "I missed you when you went to the shops", which I haven't done without him for a while - and I'm just wondering if other children of this age do the same?

bump - anyone?

Yeah, my 4yo does this sometimes too. I figure he's just remembered it again, we talk about it briefly and that seems to do the trick.

I talk to DS too - but it seems like it's suddenly so fresh and painful again for him - I don't know if it's just taking him that long to process stuff or what.

God yes. My DD remembers everything and plays over incidents she has found painful for years. Including the time I let a guest use her pink cup. Over and over. Sigh.

And everything happened 'yesterday.'

my ds is nearly 4, and sometimes he does similar about remembering something that upset him before, and like u said it seems quite fresh in his mind and he is still really upset when he thinks of it. in my sons case mainly about his favourite stripey hat that he lost on the h12 bus!! even months after sometimes he would come along with a really sad face and say "mum im just thinking about my stripey hat :( " he has only just stopped bringing this hat up quite recently and we lost it last yr!

Glad it's not just DS then!
Latrucha - everything for DS is either "just" happened or "a long time ago", and sometimes "when I was a baby", even if it was only last week.
Of course I know that they don't understand timescaling at this age - but sometimes it genuinely is a long time ago!

My ds used to be the same except everything happened "yesterday"!

My DD's memory amazes me. A shot while ago we were looking through her baby album fo the first time and she saw a Chicco drum that had broken when she was ten month old and been thrown away. She clearly remembered it instantly and turned to me, amazed, saying,' Where is it? I've been looking for that!'