DD being so awful and it's her 7th birthday tomorrow

[BerylStreep]

I feel dreadful. I have had a day of DD whining, crying, fighting with her brother, pleading to go to buy her birthday present, then throwing a complete tantrum in the shop.

DH wasn't a fat lot of help. He says, in an accusing fashion, that we have spoilt her by buying toys whenever she wants them. The fact is that it is only him who does this, not me. That didn't go down particularly well when I pointed it out to him, and DH has now sulked off to the spare room.

Her behaviour was so disgraceful today, that I don't even want to celebrate or give her any presents tomorrow. I told DH he needed to organise wrapping presents, but he hasn't bothered.

I don't want to ruin her day, but at the moment I feel completely joyless.

She's just completely over excited and cant handle it! Dont do anything you'd regret

Agree with GiantPuffball (there's a sentence I never used before!) Birthdays can be very overwhelming...
Let her have her day, then have a behaviour crackdown afterwards.

She is probably just overwhelmed by her birthday, Just let her enjoy her day and then se how her behaviour is. Just a thought why were you taking her to buy her present. In our family the best part for my children was unwapping presents on the day and that included those from us, We would never have gone out and bought the present with them the day before.

Thanks for the words of comfort.

My lovely DD was back this morning, and got her presents, although they weren't wrapped. No hint of the grumpy whinge that she was yesterday.

It just seems that we have got into the way of letting each of the DC choose one of their presents and go to buy it with us. We also give a couple of surprise pressies too.

You didn't wrap her birthday presents????????

You let her choose one?????

Ok I apologise for the ^ and have hoiked my judgy pants down a little.

Seriously, I think you need to consider how you can make the occasion more of an occasion (surprise, wrapped presents would be a start, add in novelty factor of not buying her random things at other times and of course most important parents who are a team and on the same page).

Her tantrum sounds to me like the actions of a child who has got everything and is pissed off because they are so overwhelmed by it all and haven't had time to learn to be grateful or appreciate things.

But she's 7 this should be easy to fix now if you want to.