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i want i want i want !!!!!

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ugglyduckling · 27/05/2012 22:39

had such a bad day with DD age 4 jsut wanted to rant. sorry. from the moment she wakes up all i have heard is mammy i want this mammy i wnat that. she is such a kind lovely little girl but as soon as something doesnt go her way she looses it, hence today with her insecent i want i want i want she lost it big time for the majority of the day.

I took her to a party today alsog with her little sister, she played well initially but then i found her throwing little plastic balls (the kind you get in ball pools) off other childrens heads i told her to stop and she didnt other kids were in tears so i placed her in time out in front of everyone at the party i was so embarassed. after time out she went back to play and a few seconds later she was pushing other children off a slide so she could go first. again i repromanded her to which she lay on the floor and screamed. so i was about to leave the party and sat her outside to cool off. i explained to her that i didnt expect this behaviour and if she carried on we would leave the party. she was fine for the rest of the party but then when we got home she wouldnt do anything i asked she wouldnt tidy her toys her little friend came to play and she wouldnt share any of her toys infact she was damn right rude just screamed and shouted at her friend i was so embarassed so agian she was warned and continued so again another time out. she went back to play with her friend (WHO LIVES NEXT DOOR) but again was stroppy and rude so i braught her home. I feel like all i have done to day is place her in time out, tell her off and she still hasnt behaived. DP says her 'punishments' arent long enough that once she had misbehaved she should have lost all privlidges for the rest of the day? but then if i did that would she understand what she had done wrong i thaught time out was a min for their age? she has just pushed me to the limit and like i say she is a kind lovely girl. I have mentioned this behavior to school and they say they ahve no problems at all she is a popular little girl. If she goes to someones house and im not there they always say what a lovely polite little girl etc. but when ever im there she misbehaves, even my own mother has comented that she can not believe the difference in her behavior with me. Im so tired of being angry with her i just want to play and have fun and do nice things. Ive got a week of work coming up and im so looking forward to spending some quality time with my beautiful girls but how do i stop it decending into kayos (spelling sorry???) any advice please i feel like i have no control that im not important to her i feel like a crap mum .........help? xxxxxx

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lolalotta · 28/05/2012 06:28

Hello ugly duckling, sorry you are having a hard time! I think you need to get up today and forget how things have become with all the negative attention and start with a clean slate. As soon as your dd does something well or behaves how you would like her too, really praise and make a fuss...try and ignore the little misbehaviours, turn a blind eye to naughtiness where it isn't dangerous etc and pretend not to notice, concentrate on the good stuff. I just feel you need to get out of this cycle of concentrating on the bad behaviour, focus on the good and then she will realise that she can get attention for being good too and then she might find she likes it! Give it a try, you never know!!!!

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