3.5 DD scared of everything

[notasausage]

Please tell me this is a phase that all 3 yr olds go through and it will pass. My DD is scared of

Wind
Dogs
Rain
Spiders
Steam from my dinner
Chickens (ours)
Being out of our sight for a minute even if she knows where we've gone (this is in the house)

I am reaching the end of my tether and with DD2 to deal with too it's getting really trying. Glorious sunshine today and we had to leave the park after 10 minutes because it was too windy.

Anyone been through this? Am off for a much needed

i would just not pander to it tbh

did you really leave the park just because she said she was scared of the wind?

i'd have just said "oh dear, what a shame, come and have a cuddle with me and i'll look after you"

are you sure she is scared and not just saying it to try and gain more control over certain situations? or has learned she gets a good reaction by claiming to be scared by things?

DSS1 is 7 and a pretty nervous kid (he's a bit scared of the cats we've had since they were kittens despite them being super gentle) and had been since I met him aged four.

We don't enable his behaviour (although there's lots of cuddles and affection). As such we would never leave the park because it was windy. Tonight he kept fretting over there being a few flies around the table (eating outside) but he had to stay at the table. It gets incredibly frustrating but he's better now than he was a few years ago. We've just had to be consistent.

Wherever possible we get him to explain his concern and have played a few trust games. This means we can get him to focus on us for a minute while we remind him that he trusts us and if we say something is ok then it generally is.

Yes it is a phase, I think.

My DD has just turned 4 and is much better now than she has been.
She used to be scared of wind, noisy cars, the Hoover, the hair dryer, flies, dogs, even the food mixer would have her screaming in the corner with her hands over her ears.
None of this upsets her now gradually got better over the last 6 months.

Sadly she now has an obsession about saying goodbye properly to people and is terrified that someone will leave without saying goodbye. She is also hysterical about getting water in her eyes.

The joys of the highly sensitive child!

We have dealt with all these issues with a matter-of-fact attitude. Giving hugs and reassurance but not making a fuss. They gradually went away on their own.