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2 yr old - change in behaviour and new baby

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LotusPalm · 25/05/2012 12:05

Hello all

I have a 6 week old baby and a 2vyr old DS. DS is usually happy, confident and independent but over the last week or so has become whiney and spends most of the time crying. He only does this with me and is happy with his CM and his dad, and at our regular toddler groups.

I know that its about the new baby and I make sure that I spend quality (i try, sleep deprivation means the quality might be questionable) alone time with him as the baby sleeps well and a lot. They are only really awake at the same time for a couple of hours a day.

We have kept DS's routine as normal as possible, and I put him to bed 90% of the time - bath; stories and chatting. However, he has also started to wake earlier and this tiredness is leading to the behaviour as well.

Anyway, what I'm really trying to find out is how I should respond to the whingeing and crying when he doesn't get what he wants. I feel horrible ignoring him because it just seems to lead to more tears, but responding to it makes him do it more often. I know its an attention seeking thing and I do give him lots if attention when he's not doing it.

Interestingly, its mainly when we are on our own and not when the baby us up and awake...

Any tips?

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hurricanewyn · 25/05/2012 13:00

As hard as it is, I think you should keep ignoring/distracting from the less desirable behaviour.

It's still early days yet and remember this too will pass. Grin

LotusPalm · 27/05/2012 18:46

Thanks hurricane. It's just so difficult to ignore - I either feel guilty or irritated by the whining!

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hurricanewyn · 27/05/2012 20:30

It's natural to get a bit irritated, as much as we love them we don't become saints once we're mums Smile

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