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Silly woman laughed at my dd :(

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ellesabe · 22/05/2012 11:55

I was at a singing group this morning and one of the songs was about jumping...

Silly woman to my dd: Can you jump?
Me to silly woman: She can't stand up yet.
Silly woman: Oh! How old is she?
Me: 18 months

Cue hysterical laughter from silly woman and a few others who were listening to the conversation Sad

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kilmuir · 22/05/2012 11:57

stupid women. poor you, i would not be going there again

DashingRedhead · 22/05/2012 11:57

That's horrid and insensitive.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 22/05/2012 11:57

Dickhead Angry. I would say sth to the class leader, not worth talking to the dickhead woman.

Chubfuddler · 22/05/2012 11:58

Stupid woman. Even 18 month olds who can walk cant jump.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 22/05/2012 11:58

Don't even think about not coming back! If you can be bothered ask her next time if she always takes pleasure in mocking young children.

StaceymReadyForNumber3 · 22/05/2012 11:58

how horrid! Some women do not have and sense of decorum (sp?)

sadanddesperate · 22/05/2012 11:59

What a total b@tch. Did you say anything?
I would have been absolutely raging and also sad for DD.

tomverlaine · 22/05/2012 12:01

Do you think she was just laughing out of embarrassment? maybe she didn't mean anything by it? i think it is a bit presumptive to say she is mocking small children.

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ellesabe · 22/05/2012 12:01

Unfortunately we have paid for a term so will be going until the course finishes. I'm sure there will be the opportunity to feedback at the end though.
I just feel really sorry for my dd. And it was so embarrassing as everyone in the group was listening and I could feel my face going bright red!

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BlackOutTheSun · 22/05/2012 12:02

what a bitch! Angry

Please don't tell me this was the course leader?

amistillsexy · 22/05/2012 12:02

What a horrible, stupid woman. I feel so Sad for you.

golemmings · 22/05/2012 12:02

At face value that's nasty. I suppose they might have felt uncomfortable or embarrassed about what they assumed your daughter could/couldn't do which might have led to the laughter.

It must have made you feel a bit unwelcome. Are there nicer people in the group?

sadanddesperate · 22/05/2012 12:03

You shouldn't be embarrassed at all - its that woman that's made an arse of herself. Go back next head held high

notyummy · 22/05/2012 12:03

To be fair, your DD wont have had a clue, but I can understand why you might be annoyed.

EverybodysSleepyEyed · 22/05/2012 12:03

Was it another Mum or the class leader?

Totally out of order - my DS couldn't jump until he was almost 3!

Arew you worried about her? If not, don't let this woman make you worry!

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ellesabe · 22/05/2012 12:04

Yes it was the course leader! There are some nice people there though. Will try to avoid silly woman in future! Maybe she was just embarrassed.

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worldgonecrazy · 22/05/2012 12:04

I think they were laughing out of embarassment at themselves, rather than mocking your daughter. People do react strangely when they feel they have put their foot in it.

I'd give them another chance - it's very easy to be very protective of our children and misinterpret other's behaviour.

EverybodysSleepyEyed · 22/05/2012 12:07

is it a class for under 2's?

If so, i would expect the class leader to have a bit more understanding of that age groups range of abilities.

My DD (22m) is very tall for her age and people seem to expect her to behave like a 2.5yr old so can get embarrassed when I tell them her age. maybe it was that.

(I did go to a class where she was the youngest and the leader kept snapping at her as she wasn't following instruction like the older ones - DD ended up yelling 'Noooooo' in his face everytime he went near her!)

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ellesabe · 22/05/2012 12:09

To be fair she is usually lovely and often does single my dd out and ask if she can do things as she's quite advanced in lots of other ways and can do things that others in the group can't. I think that's why people are often surprised when they realise that she doesn't stand/walk unaided yet.

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QuintessentialShadows · 22/05/2012 12:12

What a cow.

I would ensure she gets feedback.

I would also go to Netmums Local and rate her classes there. One of the best features of Netmums is their local board, where people can rate activities and classes, much like Trip Advisor.

Gapants · 22/05/2012 12:20

The woman was being insensitive and silly, and was probably flustered and mortified. She should have apologised on the spot though.

However.....OK this is not what you would like to hear, but not walking by 18m, should be checked out. My DS was under a consultant paediatrician for the 1st 2 years (birth trauma) to check out he was hitting his milestones etc. anyway, he said that one of the main concerns would be that he had not started walking by 18m, as that is rather late.

Now you have said your DD is advanced in may other areas, so it is rather likely that it is not anything to worry about. But I would get it check out.

CarpeJugulum · 22/05/2012 12:21

DS is 19mo but is the size of a 2.5 year old.

He's not talking yet (as in sentences!) but is at the copying words stage.

We were at the park and playing together, not disturbing anyone and naming things we could see - slide, swing etc. A stupid, ignorant cow of a woman came up and asked me if DS had special needs, to which I was so taken aback I replied "no" automatically. She then proceeded to tell me that I should have him assessed as he "obviously has problems, and you should be seeking out specialist help".

When I looked Shock and Hmm at her and asked why she thought this, she said that a 3 year old should have better language skills and movement skills and that what my DS was doing wasn't "normal"!

I have no idea how I managed to smile politely and say, " oh well, I have another 18 months before I need to worry then, as he's only just 19 months."

She just about fell over in her haste to run away from me... Grin

Moral? People can be stupid, ignore them!

CarpeJugulum · 22/05/2012 12:24

DS is 19mo but is the size of a 2.5 year old.

He's not talking yet (as in sentences!) but is at the copying words stage.

We were at the park and playing together, not disturbing anyone and naming things we could see - slide, swing etc. A stupid, ignorant cow of a woman came up and asked me if DS had special needs, to which I was so taken aback I replied "no" automatically. She then proceeded to tell me that I should have him assessed as he "obviously has problems, and you should be seeking out specialist help".

When I looked Shock and Hmm at her and asked why she thought this, she said that a 3 year old should have better language skills and movement skills and that what my DS was doing wasn't "normal"!

I have no idea how I managed to smile politely and say, " oh well, I have another 18 months before I need to worry then, as he's only just 19 months."

She just about fell over in her haste to run away from me... Grin

Moral? People can be stupid, ignore them!

UptoapointLordCopper · 22/05/2012 12:27

DS1 didn't walk at 18m. I did get him checked out with the HV, for what it was worth (they didn't even ask him to stand Hmm). But fortunately there was nothing wrong with him. Smile Walks everywhere now. And jumps too.

Iggly · 22/05/2012 12:33

Was this a music class in south London...?! I only ask as I went to one with ds (2) and dd who was a few weeks old. In front of everyone, the teacher commented on how ds wasn't listening to me as well as he did for his nanny because I was bf dd at the time so ds decided to run riot

I could barely hold back the tears as I was very tired and emotional.

I didnt go back despite having paid for the term.