particularly the older one to the younger? For example, ds2 now has ds1s old bike, ds1 has a new one (for the last 9 months). Ds2 has just started taking the bike out with stabilisers on. Sometimes ds1 still wants to have a go on this bike, and ds2 lets him. But when he asks to have it back, ds1 says it's his bike still and it's up to him when he can have it back.
both ds can be scared to go upstairs to the toilet on their own. Sometimes ds2 will go with ds1 to stop him being scared. So, yesterday ds2 needed a wee and asked ds1 if he would go with him, to which he said yes. I genuinely appreciate this as it means I don't have to, so I told ds1 thanks for being so helpful. Anyway, he took him up, then ran straight back down once he was mid wee, just to be spiteful. This kind of stuff goes on all the time, and I find it unbearable, I just want them to be kind to each other, and it is often ds1 being spiteful to ds2 saying things like "if you don't do such and such, I won't ever play with you again" etc.
Is this just normal sibling stuff, and how do I deal with it? I end up ranting on and on about being kind, and I fear that ds1 will actually come to resent this more than learn from it!
Thanks