My 4 and nearly 6 yo ds spend the entire day scoring points/blows witn each other. Me and my dh are so used to it that I fear we barely acknowledge it any more. I know sibling fighting is nothing new but it slightly breaks my heart as I naively had visions of them being great mates forever.
I know tht the arrival of ds3 which coincided with ds1 going to school (within a week) has been a huge stressor -particularly for ds 2 who became very difficult whilst I was pregnant, but I have tried endlessly to reassure him about his place in our hearts and the hierarchy.
Are there any books with positive fraternal role models that I could read them/ any other bright ideas?
This must be an age old problem, what have other people found successful?
I can go into specific behaviour if anyone wants to know more but didn't want this post to be too long. Suffice to say they are constantly hitting, telling on each other, calling each other names, undermining each other, when one is being difficult the other will be angelic etc.