10 month old clingy

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My ds & I feel like we are in a bubble. I have loved being at home with him,but have found the time extremely lonely.
There is little to no provision for babies,most of the groups are for toddlers. I haven't met any other mums in my time off. I have no friends or family nearby so tbh it's been ds & I 24/7 with dh when he is home from work etc.
I am returning to my job in 6 weeks ft,which I think in some ways desperately sad & in others I think will be good for both of us. He will be in nursery & so will be able to be with other children & have other adults in his life.
He is a v good natured baby (I know at 10 months not really a baby,but he's my baby!). He is always happy to be around my family when we see them at weekends.
He has now started to scream & have full on temper when I leave him. I had seen this the last few weeks when I had returned from my slimming club & last night when I was only taking out the rubbish!
He doesn't go to sleep before 830/9 & wakes up periodically through the night & settles straight away after a little cuddle,but roars when I put him in his cot. My ds is completely ruling the roost because I've let him :(
I am becoming really tired,grouchy & worried about how I'll cope with a stressful job & ds. Dh will be doing all the nursery runs. We have the settling in sessions booked at nursery & he starts 4 days a week on my first day back.
Has anyone (& if you are still reading thank you!) got any experience of this kind of relationship? We literally are together 24/7,he resists routine & I'm started bringing into our bed just to get some sleep. I have tried cc a few times,he screamed until he was sick & I couldn't bear it (I'd left him literally minutes,but used to snapping his fingers & mummy comes running)
Help!

It's separation anxiety - it's totally normal and it's a good sign. It's developmentally age-appropriate and it signifies a strong bond.

Crying it out or controlled crying (basically the same thing) are not recommended for under 1 year. Is he still feeding at night? Does DH ever get up with him? You could try sleeping in the spare room and see whether DH can settle him back to sleep (recommend doing this over the weekend rather than a weeknight).

Yes this is completely normal and will pass, you just have to hang in there I'm afraid.
Although you could try cc he is still only small and I wouldn't worry to much about creating bad habits. Its the classic 'its a phase and will pass', until he realises that mummy will always come back (and that will be soon).

Thank you. He doesn't feed at night,he just wants to be held & only I will do. He could be soothed by dh,but only seems to be happy with dh when I'm there too. I feel overwhelmed by the neediness tbh.

I know it can be really overwhelming. My 11 month old is pretty clingy too.
Can u leave him with someone and get a break. Even overnight? G'parents? That may help you to feel a little more refreshed.

It is exhausting, but it will pass. DS was like this for about four months, but now he's 17 months he's incredibly independent and will happily potter off without me when we go to the stay-and-play.

He was a mad feeder at night too and was still waking up half a dozen times until he was 11m. My test was to see whether he'd take an expressed bottle from DH. As long as he would, then he was hungry at night. But when he started to turn his nose up at the bottle I knew we were on the homeward stretch and it only took a weekend of DH picking him up at night instead of me (I slept in the spare room - the first time I'd had five hours in a row since he was born...) for him to start sleeping through.