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Over stimulated newborn? Or pfb?

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mythical · 16/05/2012 13:45

Our 4 day old baby is generally very good, she's our first baby and it's all quite new to us. Everyone is fussing around her, we live with MIL and she wants lots of cuddles and to wind her and so on, she turns up at 6 in the morning with mugs of tea (whilst appreciated -its just an excuse to see baby etc), dh is keen to show her off. we had an episode today where she just started crying (we had visitors) and I had to take her up to our room. After a good few minutes of wailing - she was refusing the breast, her little arms were flailing around, I stripped her down to her nappy and cuddled her, she calmed down, fed and has been fast asleep on my chest since.
Am I right in thinking she's still so little and even though she's generally good when being passed around etc, we need to take it a bit easier, we both need rest and peace and less stimulation for her?
I know mil is excited, first grandchild and all but I find it all a bit overbearing - I'm still healing from my not so easy birth so I'm feeling a bit fragile - I just want to spend peaceful time with my baby not wait until she is passed back to me because she is fussing and I'm the one with the boobs..

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HardCheese · 16/05/2012 14:06

My first baby is six weeks old, so I'm only marginally more experienced than you - congratulations, by the way! - but, for what it's worth, I think you're right about the over-stimulation. Your baby's response sounds much the same as ours when over-stimulated, even though our families are abroad, so we didn't get an onslaught of visitors till he was a couple of weeks old. My parents, who are quiet people and not poky types, were fine with him, but when my ILs - a nice, but terribly noisy bunch, who wanted to take a million photos, all hold the baby, and to keep sticking their fingers in his mouth - arrived, I put my foot down, and retired to another room with a hysterical baby. Yes, they thought I was being terribly PFB, but I really didn't give a tuppenny fuck. When it comes to this gorgeous little baby, I am, after all, the expert. Grin

So are you on your new arrival - follow your instincts on this, and also get yourself some rest.

narmada · 16/05/2012 14:24

You are right. What she needs is you and you only really :)

It's a perennial issue with newborns though. Everyone wants to come and see them. Good for you on retiring to your room.

Heyyyho · 16/05/2012 14:27

I think you are absolutely right Smile

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