Baby moving to own room

[Woofsaidtheladybird]

Heeelp am so on edge! Ds is 20 weeks, I've moved him from his Moses basket in our room to the cot in his little room smack bang next to ours. He's a whisker away from being able to roll over and has been really whomping about the basket. I know guidelines say in your room for 6 months..... The cot COULD squeeze into our room at a push.... I chatted with the HV team today when I got him weighed (16lb 4oz) and they said it was fine....

Pleeeease someone tell me it's ok. I'm all edgy. He's not my PFB: DD is 3 next week. I can't remember when she was moved out!

Aaarrrggghh!!!

He will be fine! If you are v.paranoid you could try what I did (much to the amusement of DH) for a few weeks and reverse the baby monitor so DS can hear you - based on one of the SIDS theories being it's your moving / breathing rhythms that help with prevention.
In my sleep deprived state at the time (ours was 12 weeks when too big for basket) I figured this covered the 'own room' risk - small child is still with us too .

Thanks for replying so quickly, Moonlight. Am in bed and am twitching at every squeak. Dh is doing the dream feed wotsit in a bit and I'm meant to be in the land of nod. Not a bad idea re monitor (except dh's alarm goes off at 5.30 - thought we could give the poor chap a lie in!!)

Well, sort of. You know what I mean

I can hear him squeaking but bloody monitor is silent. FFS.

Typical - definitely reverse monitor - and I bet he won't even notice the 5.30AM - although logically, he would have been in the same room as it before so...now go to sleep!

I put ds in own room at 4weeks in Moses basket. We found it so much easier to sleep without him there, checking on every snuffle. He'll be fine, and so will you after a Few days. X

The reverse-monitor idea is a good one - Moonlight is completely right, the point of them being in your room is so they can hear you, not so you can hear them. When babies want you to hear them, you hear them!

I'm sure your DS will be absolutely fine (if you're really worried you could have a blowup mattress in his room) - he's nearly out of the SIDS high-risk age.

Gah. Hardly slept a wink. Unlike DS. Ggrrr. Effing monitor not working - I could hear him through the walls whilst monitor was silent, altho the glowing green light of it was enough to wake the dead! Off to get a new one so hopefully tonight will be better than last. Thanks everyone

Thanks Octavia - it's the whole SIDS thing I'm twitchy about - paranoid me. He's wriggling all over the place tho so before long I'm sure he'll be putting himself on his tummy! Definitely safer in his cot than his basket - he was close to tipping it over!

We put our LO in her own room in a cot at 3 weeks. She hated the Moses basket, and wouldn?t stand it more than about 2 minutes at a time (literally), not even during the daytime, so we ended up with her between us in bed every night for two weeks till at 3 weeks old we decided to try the cot. We think she hated the basket because she couldn?t see out of it, except to look at the ceiling. She was instantly happy in the cot (we bought cot toys for it and also played with her in it for a few minutes a couple of times and used it for a couple of daytime naps before using it for night time sleep. We used a rolled up towel around her to stop the cot feeling too enormous and make her feel secure and she took to it straight away and instantly slept for 4-5 hours at the time at night in the cot. By 6 weeks old she slept through every night. We think that when she was in bed with us, we disturbed her (possibly more than she disturbed us), so we were all much happier (and less exhausted) once she went into her own room. We still use a monitor at 20 months, but to be honest she is so noisy we can hear her anyway if she wants us! Once I take off the cot sides we won?t need the monitor any more as I?m sure she will come and get us if she wants us.

I thought SIDS was mostly thought to be due to over heating, smothering and/or being in a smoking household. As long as your use appropriate bedding and cot toys and keep the room no more than 20 oC (and don?t smoke) I think you can relax about it a bit.

By the way, the only way ours would sleep at all was on her side or front so we just got on with it. I put her onto her back to sleep of course, but she would roll onto her side or tummy almost immediately, and at 20 months she still sleeps on her tummy (as do I). Most infant bedding, even the under-sheets are now made of breathable water resistant fabric rather than being waterproof plastic, and all cots etc are made to be safer than when I was a child. Of course you have to use your common sense but equally you cant stop your child rolling into the most comfortable position to sleep.

We have similar dilemma with DS except he's only 11w - but huge and nearly tipped over the Moses basket this morning by rolling against the side. His feet are pushing against the bottom and head about 2cm off top so he keeps waking himself up by throwing his arms above his head and hitting the sides.

We kept DD in our room for 7 or 8 months as she had severe reflux and would choke/stop breathing. However, she was/is v small and was still in the basket at 5+m. We then used a travel cot for a few weeks as we couldn't quite squeeze the proper cot in. We bought a decent mattress for it. If you're not quite ready (sounds like you're not!), maybe that would work for you?

My ds is 20 weeks and a very light sleeper I'm wondering if own room would help. He is in a swinging crib at the moment. His room is diagonal to ours so with our door and his door open I could see him still. I'm scared to do it though!

gourd, it's true that being in a smoking household and overheating are high risks for SIDS but the majority of deaths are unexplained - the best explanation to date is that babies' systems are very underdeveloped when they're born (to do with human babies basically needing another 9 months gestation) and so keeping them in the same room with you helps their systems to remain in motion. They are 'regulated' by your breathing and respiration. Otherwise they run the risk of simply stopping - SIDS.

And again, it is NOT about being able to hear the baby (which is why a monitor is not an adequate solution) it is about the baby being able to hear and sense YOU.