Dd's friend is not very nice to her!!!

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Dd is only 4 and is in reception! But in the last few weeks has told me more and more stories about her friend being unkind. I know they are so young so I don't want to blow this out of proportion.

But today dd came out of school in a horrible mood and has been very naughty all evening. Quite a few times she mentioned her friend being mean and saying horrible things has upset her.

So I am now thinking I will mention this to her school tomorrow. Does it sound unreasonable to suggest to the teacher that I would like her to encourage dd to play with some other children? As feel that my dd and the other little girl are not playing nicely together.

Any suggestions?

I wouldn't ask the teacher to try to control who she plays with. What I might do is ask the teacher to monitor their interactions. Just say that she seems to have been upset quite a few times recently and as it doesn't seem to be resolving itself could she just have a look what is going on.

You could ask your DD who else she plays with. My DS was very much controlled by another child in reception and year 1. He believed that he had a responsibility to her as she would be sad if he didn't play with her. She actively refused to play with anyone else and he wouldn't put his foot down for a couple of years and say he wanted to be friends with other children too. Might be worth digging a bit to see if your DD has similar misconceptions. They can feel remarkably responsible sometimes!