My sister and mother swear in front of my niece, always have done. This includes racist names and comments.
Both are angry, ill tempered, argumentative and opinionated, difficult people.
Niece has just turned 9 and is very much like them.
Today in school she used racist language when asked about religions.
The school have taken this very seriously and have suggested that if she is witnessed using such language again, she will be excluded from the school.
They have told my sister that the child involved parents will need to be informed.
My sister is very unhappy about this, she sees no issue. Says it was said innocently by niece as she doesnt understand what it means.
This is just one example of things that my niece has picked up from my mum & sister that is innapropriate and has made her unpopular or fall out with kids. She thinks its normal, has no idea that things she says and does are just not right.
I say nothing, but DH said that i should have at least opened up some conversation about how wrong this all is. I do not feel that i could have any meaningful convo with my sister as it will lead to arguments and very very bad feeling.
Its just frustrating as this truly is affecting my little nieces relationships/friendships/social interactions and now her education.
Nieces dad is not on the scene and my mum gives 70% of the childcare for neice.
Btw we had a very violent and agressive upbringing with my mother so she has always been like this, i moved out at 16, my contact is minimal because of the frustration and my mother is hard to get along with. BUT im helping out sister with school runs at the mo as she has no transport..so i get to hear stuff i wouldnt normally.
