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Clingy 2yr old will not let hubbie help out

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karentrain · 10/05/2012 15:16

I love looking after my daughter, and most of the time I find it easy and enjoyable, but like all mothers I sometimes have bad days or I just need a break.

The division of labour at home typically goes like this:

My husband loves cleaning and cooking - lucky me! so he spends a lot more of his free time on those types of chores rather than childcare. Don?t get me wrong, he?s great with her! makes her laugh, plays daddy type games and is good at feeding and dressing her - so it is not that he does not know what to do - the same way that I know how to cook and clean too - it is just that we have our comfort zones and preferences.

Our roles have become rather defined during the week, he always readies her in the mornings - breakfast, dress and get to nursery (I got to work early so am not around during this time) - and I always look after her in the evenings - dinner, bath, put to bed. However I find that at weekends, I end up doing it all - which is not right. From morning to evening I?m the one that feeds, dresses nappy changes (or as we are doing at the moment, potty training!) and puts her to bed. It?s not that he does not want to help, he does, it is that she will not let him do anything for her - if I?m around she wants me to do it or else she will throw a tantrum.

This is very tiring for me and hurtful for my husband. :(

Have any of you experienced this?

I?m hoping it is just a phase and she will grow out of it....

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rednellie · 10/05/2012 21:04

Yes, experienced this, but not much advise except wait it out! I've found if I send DD and DH out together at the weekend (to do the shopping etc) then they a) get on fine whilst being out and b) I get a break.

HTH

karentrain · 11/05/2012 14:43

Thanks rednellie, nice to know I'm not alone on this.

I read in a book that I could encourage her to let DH bathe her if I accidentally forgot to put hot water in the bath and he had to come to the rescue and fix mummy's messup - i.e. not do my job as well as I do and let him be the star. ;)

We will try that one out tonight and see what happens.... hehehe

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