So upset and out of ideas

[finleysmommy]

I know people say oh terrible twos but this is something I've never seen any child do. My son is two and if he doesn't get his way there is no stopping him. Ive read books tried all the tricks nothing calms him down. He screamed the whole supermarket down kicking tears streaming throwing his car. This I think started as he didn't want me to push the trolley. I've let him out to push it he runs off. I'm feeling low so please be sensitive and any advice in grateful for. I don't know what to do. He co sleeps with me too I cannot get him to sleep in his cot. Eating food problem too. Even a walk in the park can be a screaming activity. Seems anything is a task at the min. :( thanks

poor you, it's tricky this parenting lark isn't it. I'm sure you'll get lots of helpful advice from mumsnetters, hopefully all sensitive ! Just remember you're not alone, you're not the first mum to feel it's all too difficult, and although it seems awful now, in a couple of years you'll be worrying about something else he's doing/not doing ! Good luck :)

Hi love, you poor thing! I have no idea (my baby is only one at the moment) but hopefully some kind souls will pop up with advice.

All I can say is that parenting is really tricky for all of us, and your child isn't the only handful out there!! We all have our battles.

Here's hoping for some good advice...x x x

Some DC find supermarkets and shopping generally terminally boring. The trick is to get them to 'help' you choose items and be involved. You can count apples into a bag, name the fruits and veg and say what colour they are; you can give him a choice of no more than two, of say, yogurts or types of cereal.
You could let him choose what he would like for lunch (within reason) You might find he is more willing to eat what he has chosen. Keep praising "you're being so helpful to Mummy, I'm really pleased"

If he can't bear to be in the trolley, secure him to you with a wrist strap or one of those little rucksacks with a strap attached to stop him running off. You could also bribe with promise of a ride if he has behaved well during your shopping (often found outside supermarkets) Get round the shop as quickly as you can and don't browse for ages. Use distraction if you can see he's getting restless, "oh, look at........ over there" make sure he knows that as soon as he starts making a fuss he will be going in the trolley and not have the "freedom" of walking around (even on a rein)

Tackle one issue at a time.