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Really struggling with separation anxiety (DD 2.8). Advice please.

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belindarose · 08/05/2012 17:53

DD is going through a really difficult time and I'm struggling with it a lot. DC2 due in 7 weeks now and I've just been diagnosed with antenatal depression. Have started treatment but obviously it takes a while.

She is very aware of the impending arrival and wants to talk about it/ feel the bump all the time. I feel I have to go along with this and appear as positive as I can. She wants me all the time ('I want you to myself all say long, mummy' is a frequent phrase) and particularly wants me to sit down and cuddle her so she can put her hand down my top (had stopped this 6 months or so ago).

If she can't have me, it's screaming raging tantrums. DH is really trying when he's here but she doesn't want to know. Obviously I can understand why she's feeling/ behaving like this, but I am finding it very difficult to cope with - lots of feelings of guilt for having number 2, worries about how I'm going to cope with this and the new baby, and general fatigue and pregnancy niggles.

Any ideas that might help? Thanks.

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gaunyerseljeannie · 08/05/2012 19:29

She is feeling like that because she needs direction from you and her dad and at the moment about how to feel good. You are fretting so therfore she is too.
Chill out, you have nothing to feel guilty about, having a sibling is a GOOD THING!! assuage your guilt by reminding yourself that.
Stop letting her touch you all the time, make her go with her dad even when she screams, play puzzles, playdoh and sit down things so you get less tired, totally ignore all other bad behaviour and praise good. Show her joy and she'll find it too. And when she does go away with her dad, look after yourself Grin

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