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Verrrry long- Son's nursery report

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GeorgesMum2008 · 04/05/2012 18:09

I am posting the rather long report from my son's nursery. Basically I have had concerns about ds attention, his father has ADHD and ever since ds was born he was very rigid, stiff never happy awful colic took him to hospital once and a paediatrician on holding him said he "felt different" to other babies- just stiff and even now when I try to hold him he's the same. He is very "hyper", and this includes he literally cannot just sit still he HAS to be moving, even in his sleep he's constantly tapping a foot or rolling everywhere. Cannot even give him a hug as I can't have his attention for long enough. He is obsessed with trains to the point they are all he has ever played with, for bday etc all he gets is new trains he is not interested in any other toys. Sometimes he just "switches off" and I can be stood in front of him saying "George, george, george" and he's just staring into space not hearing me. Maybe I am being paranoid, I grew up with an autistic brother ad wonder if this led to me looking for a problem with ds. Who knows I guess only time will tell, he'll be 4 next month so still v early for any kind of diagnosis. He's also delayed in his speech. Anyway I'm sharing his nursery report with you ladies for your opinions- the majority of it is positive but the bits that stick out to me like the drawing of the same picture over and over I'm not sure whether to be concerned...

G has always been absorbed in his play and is drawn to familiar play experiences especially the train track. G is able to sit still for short periods of time listening to stories and friends share their news. G may need reminding at times to look forward and wait to speak but with adult support he is an active member of circle time. G takes pride in his achievements and strives to be as independent as he can at nursery, managing bathroom skills, dressing and undressing and eating and resting appropriately. He is able to make choices and shows verbal and physical preferences.

He manages his behaviour with developing confidence and understanding looking to adults for support when necessary and checking his own and others movements. George can become excitable in his play which can lead to high volume and careless body skills accidentally bumping or treading on friends. George has a good network of friends who are all pleased to see him and share their play.

He works hard on his language and understanding skills to interact and play along some themed play with his peers. George is beginning to use a wider range of words and link his statements to what he wants or is doing, he finds it more challenging to elaborate on ideas for e.g. when asked "where" his rocket was going George answered "rocket fly". Developing his understanding of where and how has been recommended by the speech therapist who has visited us in nursery. George is beginning to speak more clearly and audibly and is showing some control over his sounds. George organises his make believe play around familiar characters- fireman sam, and the sounds for trains and cars.

At present george does not link words and letter sounds. He is able to recognise his own name, but doesn't want to sit and make letter shapes or explore writing. He is forming recognisable face shapes with body parts and names his pictures ef "mummy and george". He becomes engrossed in his pictures making play and will draw similar pictures over and over again on numerous pieces of paper. He chooses not to add colour or differing media to his pictures even though available. George enjoys counting and can recognise familiar numbers with confidence and pride. At present he does not offer the correct amount of blocks asked for by staff straight away, he continues his count. However with adult support and shared language reminding him of the number he can correctly count out the number asked for.

George is a happy and valued member of the nursery. he is always excited and motivated to join in and learn. Although easily distracted he works well in a small group taking turns to talk and share the activity. George responds well to simple instructions best kept short and to the point.

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Octaviapink · 04/05/2012 19:08

It sounds to me as though he has pretty good social skills (he responds well to staff, he's not 'locked in', he has friends), but he clearly likes what he likes.

I wouldn't read too much into things. My daughter draws the same picture obsessively (spiders and turtles at the moment) - sometimes I think they're just perfectionists trying to replicate the great picture in their heads or they may just enjoy being able to draw the thing they can draw. How does he respond if you show him how to draw something else? For example if you sit down and show him how to draw a house?

I also wouldn't read too much into the short attention span - that's pretty normal for pre-school boys I think.

It sounds as though the nursery isn't providing an outlet for his physical energy - they don't talk about whether he enjoys games outside, for example (all their examples are of sitting-still-and-concentrating activities) - how good he is with a football, for example, or climbing things? He's clearly antsy when they want him to be sitting nicely in a circle waiting for his turn to speak, which isn't really what (IMO) four-year-old boys are about.

I can see that you might be concerned about the language, but there are therapies that can help with that. It doesn't sound like an ASD diagnosis.

Bletchley · 04/05/2012 19:23

It sounds like a good nursery -that's very detailed information.

insancerre · 04/05/2012 19:25

He sounds fairly typical for a boy that age, based on my experience working with pre-school children.
Especially this bit George can become excitable in his play which can lead to high volume and careless body skills accidentally bumping or treading on friends
I agree with pp that the setting sound like they are expecting him to sit for longer than he wants or is appropriate for his age. He needs lots of outdoor space.
This is normal too George organises his make believe play around familiar characters- fireman sam, and the sounds for trains and cars and the setting should be using these interests to plan activities and learning experiences for him, based on these interests and schemas. Schemas are the patterns that some children develop in their play, for instance like lining up toys or filling and emptying containers.
Info on schemas here
G is able to sit still for short periods of time listening to stories and friends share their news means their circle times are too long and are not holding his attention maybe because they are boring Grin
George has a good network of friends who are all pleased to see him and share their play. shows he can make friendships
He is able to recognise his own name, but doesn't want to sit and make letter shapes or explore writing. again, perfectly normal for his age (boys are particulary difficult to engage in this sort of activity)
he is always excited and motivated to join in and learn this is essential for learning at school
If you are at all worried about him then I would make an appointmane with hs key-person and ask them what they think about his development.
It is good that he is having speech therapy, as the earlier it is given the better outcomes for the child. It doesn't mean that because he has speech delay that he has other problems as well, though.

LynetteScavo · 04/05/2012 19:40

I agree with Bletchley, it sounds like a good nursery.

"George has a good network of friends who are all pleased to see him and share their play." Sounds to me like George has the important things in life sorted. Smile

Is G 2.5, or 4.5?

LynetteScavo · 04/05/2012 19:41

My point being, that he seems advanced for a 2yo in someways, but slightly behind a 4.5yo in others.

Ineedalife · 04/05/2012 20:03

Most of what is on there is lifted straight from the eyfs development profile.

It sounds like he is doing ok to me.

What bits are you worried about?

GeorgesMum2008 · 04/05/2012 20:05

Thank you sooo much ladies already I feel calmer. He will be 4 in June, so he's 3.11 :) I think because I've grown up with ASD brother and work with ASD students in a college I may be looking out for things and panicking if anything resembles "typical" ASD behaviour, plus when we went to speech therapy classes something like 70% of the kids there were on spectrum. TBH it's more the ADHD side of things, it's v hard because I know little boys are known for this kind of behaviour (wanting to be outside all the time etc). It doesn't help that the only other child I know at all is my 2yo niece who is the most placid little thing, kind of highlights George's boisterous behaviour. I guess it's a case of embracing it and find outlets for his energy, trying to think of some kind of sport group for him to join, or maybe he's too young :S

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GeorgesMum2008 · 04/05/2012 20:07

Ineedalife- was concerned when I read about him "treading" on other children (wtf?!) and the art bit. I'm also training to be an art therapist so may also be reading too much into that lol. Saying he can't hand blocks to the required number, and the fact he won't sit to work on letters I'm thinking what will happen at school in Sep? :S

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Bletchley · 04/05/2012 20:08

I don't think it is all lifted, though I'm sure some of it is. There is a lot added from observation of the little boy.

DeWe · 04/05/2012 20:46

I've got a ds almost exactly a year older, and your ds sounds fine in all aspects except the speech, which you know about. Socially he sounds better than ds.

The report does have that slightly stilted tone where they've used a computer programme to write. Smile

My ds refused to pick up a pen/pencil except to stab the paper at preschool. If they tried to get him to hold it properly, he either made his hand so limp he couldn't hold it, or so rigid it scratched a hole in the paper. He wouldn't even do craft activities. However he soon started writing in year R and he even occasionally brings work out he's Shock done voluntarily.
My dd's were both writing sentences by 3yo, but I don't think their ability was any greater, just they liked to do it and he didn't.

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