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18month old screams when i put him to bed but is happy for someone else to do it?!

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DiddyLover · 02/05/2012 21:06

My Son goes to his Dad's on a Saturday night and comes home on a Monday morning, when i got him back on Monday he Dad said that they had had trouble with him sleeping on both sat and sun nights. He is/was cutting his fang teeth and was suffering quite badly so they put it down to that being the problem.
He ended up being in bed with his Dad both nights :S Usually my Son hates being in my bed (thank god!)

So to cut a long story short on the Monday at nap time i had to take him for a drive (usually sleeps perfectly well in his cot) then comes to Monday night and he screamed himself sick! He screams before ive even put him down. I ended up giving in and put him in my bed because i thought there must be something wrong and needed comforting.

Last night I had to stay in his room until he was fast asleep (I normally leave him to settle himself and if he has a cry/moan i leave that too, to a certain extent) Today's nap my friend tried to put him into his cot because he wouldnt go down for me and he went straight to sleep no questions asked?! Same thing for bedtime but it was my Brother who put him to bed because again he screamed/cried when i tried!

Im extra confussed!

Help!

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daytoday · 03/05/2012 00:44

This is really common. Whenever I have babysat friends children, they go straight to sleep. If they wake up and I go to them, they look at me with horror turnover and go to sleep. They don't want cuddles from me.

If my husband goes to our youngest (13 months) when she wakes up in the night. They'll cuddle and she'll go back to sleep. If I go up, she will cry for a lot longer and inevitably end up in our bed. I think she wants my attention more.

Its a good sign. You've bonded hard.

DiddyLover · 03/05/2012 07:11

This has only just start this week so it has totally thrown me, I ended up sleeping on his floor last night :S he scream for 4hours even with me in his room! Its just that bit harder cos its only me here. X

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Girlsville · 03/05/2012 11:27

hello OP are you me?
DD1 is 2.2 and has recently started screaming hysterically when I put her in cot at bedtime and leave the room. Whereas when DH, her grandparents or the nanny put her down at naptime or bedime she leis happily chatting to her teddies and playing ehr music and doesnt bat an eyelid when they leave the room.

No advice but lots of empathy - it is emotionally draining and I am still figuring out the ebst way to deal with it.

DiddyLover · 03/05/2012 20:07

Today I have found that sitting in the room (getting nearer to the door each night) helps so much! He didn't cry at all when I put him down tonight fingers crossed
Health Visitor has basically said the they don't care if someone else walks out of the room but because they are so attached to us that's why they are screaming! Still is a bit odd that its just randomly started!

Hope you manage to get sorted too x

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