my 5yrold son has major toilet issues, he poos himself regularly or just has a little bit stuck on his bottom. He refuses to go to the loo sometimes and flatley refuses to wipe his bottom . It has become an issue at school. At first they were very patient with him , but it happens so often now that they have told him that he is big enough not to poo himself and to wipe his own bottom. He understands that it is not acceptable, but tells me he cant help it . He seems to have a real issue with all things toilet and has started to wet himself too. His teacher has told me he has tantrums and he gets cross very easily. She also has suggested he needs to grow up a bit as he is a bit babyish and demands attention all the time and he hates being alone . I think this is probably to do with my parenting , I do alot for all 3 of my children ( my other to children are 22 and 24) and fear I might be babying my 5 yr old , but I do wonder if he has constipation as he only( Massive) poos every 3 - 5 days. ANY advice would be so useful