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DS 6yo day dreaming caused by glue ear?

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Flojo1979 · 01/05/2012 20:52

Hi, my DS has suffered with glue ear since he was much younger, he currently has gromits in though his hearing doesnt seem great.
Over the past few months, hes had poor concentration and if not prompted every few seconds he will just day dream. Its becoming a real issue at school. Could hearing loss cause him to 'tune out' of the real world? or am I just finding excuses for poor behaviour?
What can I do to help him snap out of it?

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WhereEaglesDare · 02/05/2012 21:02

If he had suffered from glued ear for so long,even though he has gromits,it takes time for the whole body to get used to!!!
Please don't blame on him --rather talk to him ,ask him every single day what did he do i school ,what teacher was saying,what was happening in the classroom. His hearing is now in-taking probably every single sound and it's not unusual for him to wonder off.
You and me,we have naturaly learned to recognise sounds around us,it came naturaly-brain can straight away distinguish what it is and where it came from,and we would be able to focus on what is at the time important,But for kids who had limited hearing from early age,once gromits are in and presumably hearing is good,it takes time to learn all that.
HTH

When TV is on,if you are talking to him does he answers back???Is he able to follow what you are saying?(tv on)

Timandra · 02/05/2012 21:39

He may just need to learn to filter out the sensory input from the wide range of new sounds around him. Children have to learn this skill and your DS is starting well behind his peers.

I wouldn't call it bad behaviour. It is a new challenge and he's learning to deal with it.

Suddenly having to be in a noisy environment all day every day could be exhausting. I certainly struggle to concentrate in noisy places and the longer I'm in them the harder it becomes.

You could support him by giving him silence when he's doing his homework or needs to concentrate on something and ask the school to do the same for at least a small part of the day. You could also offer him praise for short periods when he does concentrate and perhaps break tasks down into small time slots so he doesn't have to struggle to concentrate for too long. Perhaps you can increase these blocks of time by a minute every now and then so he extends the time he can concentrate in a manageable way.

Flojo1979 · 02/05/2012 22:31

Thanks, I never thought that maybe he can hear and struggle with sensory overload. He's had the gromits in a yr now tho so should be used to it and his hearing still seems hit and miss. When the tv is on, a bomb could go off at the side of him and he wouldn't notice.

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WhereEaglesDare · 03/05/2012 00:06

I would have a word with dr so he can give you bit more advice and guide how to help your ds...
Even tho he had them for a year,it's the process that he needs to learn and it's not an easy one,because he is developing from every aspect so obviusly he does need to catch up.It's not a quick learning process,as i said earlier on it will take time for body to learn how to process sound and place them in the right box in the brain. Don't forget,while he didn't have full hearing,body was relying on other senses to help him to cope with every day life,so now with a time,practice,exercise he needs to bring all senses in balance+new sounds are bringing new sensation and it can be very overpowering to have such a suden input of different noise...
It's not behaviour issue imho i thing it's more audio processing that he needs to regulate....hth

WhereEaglesDare · 03/05/2012 06:01

thing=think

Flojo1979 · 03/05/2012 13:13

Ok thanx, he's being reviewed soon so hopefully its all make sense then.

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