weeing standing up

[MimsyBorogroves]

Oh dear.

My 4 year old starts school in September, and at our ready for school meeting we were told that one of the things they "must" be able to do is wee standing up, at a urinal. (boys, obviously)

DS1 can't do it. He has tried quite a few times, but he will stand, think about it (part of the problem, I'm sure) and say he "just can't do it". It probably doesn't help that he insists on holding his testicles rather than just his penis.

I need a step by step guide on how to do this. Most of me thinks it's ridiculous, but then again I don't want him to be in a minority of boys who "wee like girls".

Sigh.

My ds didn't start doing this until he started school, when he saw other boys doing it. I think the school is unreasonable to expect all boys to do it age 4. At ds's school they have unisex toilets so the boys can use the loo if they want - why don't you ask the school about this, explaining why?

DS couldn't do it when he started reception. He could within about a fortnight - he just did what everyone else did.

DS weed sitting down when he started school. He wees standing up now. Toilets were also unisex in Yr R in our school. I wouldn't worry. They have to have toilets for pooing in anyway don't they!

Weird that they HAVE to do it. Presumably they have normal loos for having a poo so why can't he use those?

I taught DS to stand up from the start as he was struggling with toilet training and I thought he might find it fun. Do you have a partner who can show him what to do? Easier to model it than explain I would guess

Get a ping pong ball for him to aim at,show him what he needs to hold and how and if he really can't then tell the school he can't do it, end of story.

I agree with the he'll follow his peers. Ds refused to even try before he went to school, and very quickly started doing it. He explained very carefully to me how to, so I could do it too.

Really?? DTS2 started reception last September, no discussion about weeing standing up. He still wees sitting down. DTS1 (who goes to a different school) wees standing up but I think only because he has learnt from watching older kids and wanted to copy them. His school didn't mention it either before he started.

it was never mentioned at our school either. They will have toilets for pooing in anyway so it shouldnt be an issue if he wants to pee sitting down.

our primary school dose not have urinals for reception or year 1 they are all toilets, and there is no rule stating that boys have to stand up for a wee is there, friends ds 9 will only sit down for a wee!!...

our primary school dose not have urinals for reception or year 1 they are all toilets, and there is no rule stating that boys have to stand up for a wee is there, friends ds 9 will only sit down for a wee!!...

What a ridiculous and intrustive rule. There are quite a few adult males that prefer to stand up to wee.

How utterly ridiculous that the school feel that a boys choice of how to wee has anything to do with the school. Not as if it is eligibility criteria!!

Really, don't fret over it, let DS wee exactly how he wants. The best advice your school should be giving you is to buy a whole years uniform in August (ezpecially jumpers) and a gazillion labels. Now that would be the kind of specifics you could do to have at a ready for school meeting Good luck in September!

Thanks everyone!

Hopefully he won't follow one of his peers who likes to wee in the outside play areas at pre-school...

bung some cheerios in the loo for him to aim at to make it fun and if he likes holding his testicles to get him to have one hand on theose and the other on his willy. Don't worry, he will pick it up when ready.

I have tried to encourage my DS to stand up but he is not interested.

He still sits down and he is almost 7 and in P2 (year 1). I have asked him about what goes on at school and he seems unphased so I have just left it.

As single parent I must say I feel rather under equiped to address the issue....