Daughter will NOT let hubby settle her down at night or can settle when cries please help??

[Moomin1000]

hi my daughter is 15 weeks whenever she cries my hubby can't settle her until she's in my arms and I've tried leaving her but she gets so distressed!!! What I worry about is when I need to leave her to go dentist etc she will get so upset :-( also she willnot go to sleep for him!! He's watched how I do it and everything!! I think she sees daddy as fun play mate that's it... Any ideas or advice would be appreciated!! Will she grow out of it naturally?
Thanks

You need to have him do more with her, baths, nappies, as much as poss

Try not to step in

Hard but worth it

Yes, it will get better as she gets older, she's still very little and can't understand that you will come back soon yet. Let your hubby find his own ways of comforting her. If you have to go to an appointment and would worry about your dd, would she settle/nap if your dh walked her around in the pram while you were gone? That's the only thing that (sometimes) worked for us at that age.

Dd was exactly the same. She would only accept being comforted by me if she woke up at night. If dh went in to her room and tried to pick her up, she would scream blue bloody murder! I'm sorry to say that this went on for about 18 months - 2 years. In all other ways he was an incredibly involved and hands on with dd - she just wanted me at night.

Thanks for advice good to know lot alone!!

Mine were both like that, and honestly they still want me to put them to bed (2 and 4yo), I would try and book appointments at a time when I could get them to sleep first, or they would at least be tired enough to be happy to go for a walk in the pram.

They probably got over it when they were about one.

Yep my DS was like this- very pro mummy you could say.
However with hindsight I was still too close by or saying the odd (useful of course...!) thing through a closed door. It wasn't until I truly buggered orf that my husband had chance for son to rely and focus on. I did breastfeed at the time and also wonder if DS could stiff me out even if I was in a different room.
Good luck, it's hard work for you and hardly a morale boost for your husband! Get him to do loads with changing feeding chatting carrying in a sling etc

my dd was also like this, when she was 13mths i went away for a few days to visit my sister and her new baby, and she got used to daddy! i think it helped that i just wasnt there tbh.

it is something she will get better with, she is still very little so give it time.