I need super nanny!

[happyhappymummy]

I have been a rubbish mum for the past 18 months.
My husband left me just before I was to start a course at college. I threw myself into study and work. All I could think of was he isnt gonna stop me from doing this. I will do this and have an amazing job and support us without his help. My routine went out of the window, because i was forever doing homework. Working all hours. My middle daughters eating habits got worse, shes now over weight, also struggling at school. They dont go to bed alone and wake about 5 times.
Anyway I was forced to finish my course and work as my ex wasnt supporting me in any way.
I have lost complete control and Im losing the plot!
I need some structure back! I need super nanny!
I dont know where to begin.

I'm sure that you're not a rubbish mum, you were just trying to do the best for your children. You can be your own super nanny! How about a sticker chart for bedtimes with a small treat at the end? Good luck.

Thanks oftengrumpy but I feel it sometimes. Like I was too tired or too busy to take control.
Thanks but Iv tried it but it doesnt work :(

Well if it makes you feel better I totally ignored my own advice and my DD is 5 and has only just started going to sleep by herself! Maybe just pick one thing to focus on eating, sleeping, homework and say to yourself that it's ok to let the other's go because they are not your goal? Sorry I'm not much help! x

No thanks its always good to have other views.
Yes I think one at a time cos I feel like Im gonna go nuts.
Bed time is on my first to do list I think! :-)

Let me know how you get on because my two totally refused to go to bed tonight!

You are not a rubbish mum.

I think its good advice to tackle one thing at a time. It's hard to find the energy sometimes to keep things like sticker charts going and be consistent, but the benefits are going to be huge - peaceful bedtimes. I used one with my DS to encourage him to sleep in his own bed rather than mine and he responded really well.

Good luck.

Will do oftengrumpy :)
Junes.. Iv tried it but its like when it comes to it they really dont care if they get a sticker or a reward. Glad its worked for you.
Iv tried relaxing bubble baths, reading, warm milk. Walking out of the room and checking on them in 5. If its not one moaning its the other. One will get up disturb the other. One will cry wake the other. Its so difficult. I give in as Im upstairs for hours.