Sleep issues ~ Losing the will to live

[Jacfar2909]

Would appreciate any advice!

I have 2 DD's, one nearly 3 and the other 10 months and they share a room (due to no choice!). DD2 wakes up at 3am every day without fail, this has happened in the past but I did manage to get her to go back to sleep within 30 minutes. However, this has now been going on for 3 weeks and it doesn't matter what I do, the only way she will go to sleep is if I pick her up. If I let her scream it wakes up DD1 then I have both screaming (HV's advice was to let her scream as no way would it disturb a toddler.......). I am exhausted and wondered if anyone has any tips. I am reluctant to give her some milk as I don't want that to form into a habit even though I know that would get her back to sleep.

I guess I'm going through this again as I had DD2 teething and DD1 had chicken pox so I ended sleeping in the room as DD1 was quite poorly.

Please help! First time poster, so there is probably threads already on this subject so pls forgive me!

I think if she's 10 months and she needs some milk at night then she needs some milk at night. Both mine were still eating at night at that age and when they're growing they're growing. You can always wean off the extra feed later on, but if it's the difference between a half-decent night and an appalling one then go with it!

I am with Octavia on this one, I know they "should" not be fed at night after 6 months but 10 months is still very young and she might be genuinely hungry. DS is 14 months and dropped his night feed last month. He had started to drink less and less, so I started to water down his milk, 1 oz less milk every 2-3 days. To be honest I think he would have dropped the feed anyway as it took less than a week to night wean, now he just pushes the bottle away. He still wakes in the night though.

I would just do whatever gives you and your DD the most sleep. Plus there is a massive sleep regression at 9 months, her sleep might improve by itself in the next few weeks.

Thanks very much. I'll give her some milk tonight see how it goes, can't be any worse!!! I suppose I dropped it when she started sleeping through and assumed she didn't need it. The reluctancty comes from my friends who fed theirs through the night and then said that they then had problems with getting them settled when they cut it out. But one is desperate, so again thanks!!! X

I know it's horrible OP, I've had this nickname since DS' 9 months sleep regression. Much better now though, although as I said he is still not sleeping through.

I think until they're at least 1 it's hard to nightwean, IME at 9 month their sleep gets much worse and it can last from a couple of weeks to a couple of months. From what I've read though, if your DD used to sleep through, chances are she will do it again.